Feeling rejected
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Feeling rejected
| Sun, 05-25-2008 - 8:50am |
Maybe you can help me because my self esteem has hit rock bottom!. I don't get it! I am in my early 40's and have been divorced for 4 years. I have only had one short 2 month relationship in that whole time!! I don't EVER get asked out on dates. I am not being conceited, I am only telling you what people tell me but almost everyone I meet and my family also say that I have a magnetic personality where people like to be around me and want to be friends with me. My mom said I was always that way even as a child. I try to make people feel happy and love to make them laugh and have fun. As far as looks, people always tell me that I am very attractive and look really young for my age, in my early 30's. For heaven sake my son who is 20 gets mad because he said all of his friends are always commenting on how "hot" his mother is. So if supposedly I have a great personality and I am physically not repulsive and keep myself thin then how come I never get asked out???!!! My self esteem is going down the drain and I am feeling like there is something wrong with me. I never act too eager or needy. So why is it that I am not getting asked out? I can also tell that when I meet some men that they are attracted to me but....where is the date request? Please, any advise would help because I am tired of being alone and feeling like someone that no one wants.

Yours is a tough post for me, in any event, to answer.
Where are you and when do you want to go out?
Maybe just kidding. Maybe not. Dating is hard, especially after 40. This may sound forward, but instead of waiting to be asked, why not ask? Not for a real "date" date, but coffee, lunch at a diner, something casual to break the ice. Some men might be a little intimidated by your 20 year old son, your good looks, your personality. They may not feel they have a chance with you and pass up being rejected. BTW - I live in LA.
It sound like you may need to take the first step.
Magic...
Are you doing anything to meet men? Do you approach men?
Or is it just the men where you live?