First Date (with an ex)

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Registered: 02-24-2011
First Date (with an ex)
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 11:20am
It's been over six years. Out of the blue I got a text from an ex... We started texting. We still cared for each other and talked about all that has changed in 6 years (for example there was no texting back then). I felt we drew closer then the last time we were together ... So, we decided to meet and it turned into a date.

He wants this to be it. And I've decided to take it slowly. (no sex) He respects that and seems to want to give this a serious try.

Any thoughts on dating an ex. It's been 6 years. He's grown and so have I.

For our date he took me out for dinner. He was even more handsome than I remember. He told me that I look Wow. Remember it's been six years... there was no telling how well the years have been on his looks. He looked great. And sounded great too.

After dinner, we went to an evening church service. He wanted to introduce me to all his friends. We've been texting for about 6weeks and he's been anticipating our date. Church was great. I could hear him singing so loudly. He seems do joyful.

Then after that he took me to get ice cream. We sat outside in a lovely courtyard eating our ice cream. And when it got chilly, he put his arms around me. We were able to talk about a lot of things. It felt surreal since I haven't seen him in 6 years.

Ok. I'm not getting ahead of myself. I had a great time and he wants to see me again.

Lil Pepper
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 12:59pm

It sounds like

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 5:36am
lil_pepper wrote:
It's been over six years. Out of the blue I got a text from an ex... We started texting. We still cared for each other and talked about all that has changed in 6 years (for example there was no texting back then). I felt we drew closer then the last time we were together ... So, we decided to meet and it turned into a date.

He wants this to be it. And I've decided to take it slowly. (no sex) He respects that and seems to want to give this a serious try.

Any thoughts on dating an ex. It's been 6 years. He's grown and so have I....

Lil Pepper

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 7:40am

That's a good question, Trenner2!

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 11:02am
He had a problem with drugs. I walked away. Heard he ended up in jail for a year. So as I'm taking it slow I'm being sure that all that is in the past. I was six years ago so Im taking his word as such. But again, I'm being cautious.
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 10:41am

Hi;

Oh;Boy

Arent you the lil pepper who just got rid of your abusive alcoholic bfriend and all that stuff?

Werent you told by many and your therapist to stay alone and heal and not DATE anyone? Ex or not?

Now this guy is an ex drug addict?
Dont you want to find out what is up with you first before you start again into a relationship?

You can go slow but relationships rarely go slow unless you are healthy enough to handle that?Its not as easy as it sounds and appears to be.

I think you are going down a slippery slope but people can change and I would proceed with much more than caution.

I would proceed with a coat of armor but that is just me.