First time for everything

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Registered: 11-26-2007
First time for everything
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Thu, 04-10-2008 - 11:51pm

Hi people

I got out of a 3 year relationship about four months ago, and the last thing I want right now is to be tied down to one person. So anyway, I recently started dating a really great guy. We've been hitting it off rather well. I don't exactly have experience with dating people because the relationship I was in before was my first and only. Also, when my ex and I first got together over three years ago, we moved so fast and became boyfriend/girlfriend right away without getting to really know each other first. So moving on, this new guy and I haven't had sex yet, but it will most likely happen in the near future. We've been getting really close...to make a long story short, we basically do everything a typical boyfriend/girlfriend do, except we are not exclusive. We talked today about it, and I told him that I really do like him, but that I don't want a boyfriend, and I told him why. He says he understands, but that if I wanted to date someone else that I should let him know. He's the one and only guy that I am dating right now, but it just feels strange b/c we're getting really close (which isn't a bad thing), but I feel like I could be heading down a troublesome road. I really don't want to get serious with him, and I don't want him to be my boyfriend. This is probably a silly post, but I would just like some feedback and different opinions. I've never been in this situation before, hence, there's a first time for everything. Thanks.

~The Jen

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Registered: 08-17-2007
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 10:27am

You mention, more than once in your OP, that you don't want a boyfriend and you don't want to get serious.


If that's the case, you may want to consider not having sex.

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 12:05pm

Hey

Yes you bring up a good point. I will consider that and probably take your advice. Thanks.

~The Jen