Flirting, or just being polite...?

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Flirting, or just being polite...?
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 2:02am

Hey! I was wondering if anybody might have a little insight for me. I've been kind of out of the whole dating scene for over a year, after a really horrible breakup from a person I spent 3 years with (which was 3 years too long...)


I've recently started getting out again, going out with friends, meeting people. But I'm so removed from the whole dating thing! I don't even know how it works or what to do. I guess I'm having a little bit of trouble with the difference between flirting and being polite.


I'm 22, I should be good at meeting guys and going out, haha, but I'm not! So I could use some help...


So last night, I went out with my best friend for his birthday. It was him, his boyfriend, and a few other people that we're friends with. A little later on, this completely adorable (straight) guy walked through the door, a friend of one of the girls and with my best friend. I've never met him before, but it was kind of an instant thing, where we just kind of "clicked." He sat next to me, and it was just... flowy, comfortable, from the start.


He asked a ton of questions about what I liked to do, music, school, everything. Then I got up and (I was a little bit tipsy...it's the only defense I have, haha) did karaoke, and, you know, was being silly. When I got back, he kept telling me how good it was. (lol!) He was just being very genuine and sweet. I'm so not used to sweet!


Are nice guys sweet and so free with the compliments all the time? I can't tell between polite and flirting. Gosh, yeah, I'm lame.


So our table opened up in the other part of the bar. We were having so much fun, we didn't really want to go just yet, but if we stayed, we'd lose our table. So I decided

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Tue, 04-07-2009 - 10:02am

Call him and ask when he is free to see the movie you discussed.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-07-2009 - 1:40pm
He definitely seems interested. I hope things go well for you. And just because he's a virgin & you're not, doesn't mean things won't work out. I assume that because you were w/ your old BF for 3 yrs, you haven't been w/ a ton of guys (I know that assumption could be wrong) but I think that sleeping w/ a guy you're in a long term rel. w/ is understandable and it's not like sleeping w/ a bunch of random guys. There aren't that many virgins around these days anyway.