Found One! Now what?

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Found One! Now what?
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Sat, 05-03-2008 - 12:31pm

Wow, I have met someone. We are both divorced, no kids and I think there's a mutual attraction (others at work have made comments). I floated an idea out a week or so ago that he should meet me and some friends downtown at a concert, and he seemed interested but then had to work and couldn't come (he apologized and explained). We've had some great conversations this past week and I really feel a connection.

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 1:52am

Does your company have anything in it's policies that say two employees cannot date? Do you know if he has ever dated a co-worker in the past at any of his jobs?


Some people, like me for instance, have a real fear of dating co-workers because if it doesn't work out then man can it be REALLY awkward. My child's father was a co-worker of mine and 23 years later I can still vividly remember how horrible it was after we broke up because we both still worked together. A lot of people have that fear.


BUT....having said that, a lot of people with that fear will still date within their job for the "right" person. You two just might be each other's "right" person!


I would say take things slow and don't be too discouraged if he takes things really slow. Everyday that you spend time together will give him a chance to know you better and is one step closer to actual dating.


Think of time as your friend not your enemy. Enjoy the times that you do see him at work and try not to dwell on the dating future. If you build a solid friendship through work and he sees that that is successful it just might give him the courage to finally take your friendship to the dating level.


It sounds like you're off to a great start! Hang in there and let us know how it goes!


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