Getting a date at the gym??

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Registered: 01-30-2013
Getting a date at the gym??
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Wed, 01-30-2013 - 3:16pm

Hey everyone. So I'm freshly back in the dating scene. I workout very frequently, usually 9 times a week. Anyway, I go to the gym every morning and have been crushing on one of the personal trainers there. A few days ago, he approached me inbetween his client sessions, and introduced himself. We chatted for maybe 5 or 10 minutes. I'm in law school and he told me he was starting in the Fall, we also talked about where we went to undergrad, etc. Since then, he usually will come find me inbetween his sessions and we will talk for as long as he isn't training. I am very attracted to this guy; physically, he has all the attributes I find most attractive in men. From what I know about him from chatting, we have very similar interests, as well. I really want to go on a date with him and see if we actually are compatible. I just don't know if he is even interested in me. and if he is how I can get him to ask me on a date, especially considering the only contexts in which we talk are while he is working. Any advice on how I can hint at perhaps the two of us going on a date? I appreciate any advice.

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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 11:45am

At first I was thinking he was trying to drum up a new client for himself by approching you originally. I also am a gym member and I see the personal trainers with their clients. They are generally pretty outgoing and chatty since having a good rapport with your clients will keep them coming back and keep the money rolling in. Since you say he keeps seeking you out for conversation between his other clients, it seems it may be more than that. I wonder if perhaps he is already interested in you outside of the gym. You certainly don't have to wait for him to ask you out. You do share the law school thing, you having some schooling already. Maybe you could phrase a question or suggestion along the lines or talking or discussing more in depth about law school sometime, over a coffee at a coffee shop nearby or something. That would leave the ball in his court as far as pursuing it if he wants to.

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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 9:12pm

As a lawyer myself, I marvel at how you have so much time to work out, but maybe that's the time I was spending going to parties & drinking.  lol

I think since it's only been a few days, maybe he is working up to asking you out but if more time goes by you might have to be more direct him & ask him to meet you for something--coffee, lunch, whatever.  Hopefully the gym doesn't have a policy against employees dating their customers.  Maybe you could try to find that out from another employee.

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Registered: 01-30-2013
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 9:45pm

I mean I know he definitely isn't trying to get new clients. His pay is the same regardless of how many clients he has. Plus, the gym I go to is always insanely busy. I guess I just don't know a nonawkward way to ask to spend time together outside of the gym. I was thinking of just asking him tomorrow what his plans were for the weekend, because I feel like if he didn't have any interest in me he could easily answer the question in a way that would indicate that to me. 

Yeah, law school and frequently working out gets tough at times, but luckily I require little sleep.

Thanks for the advice.