Gimme a break!

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Gimme a break!
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 11:34am

It's summer.... my kids are going to be gone for a long weekend (Wednesday afternoon until Monday night... maybe Tuesday morning if I'm lucky)... my office partner will be on vacation during that time, and normally I'd be swinging from the chandelier with a few extra days of total silence to just do what I want to do... and be what and where I want to be....


I have so much work to do from a volunteer/work related


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 11:26pm

I hope your day has improved since you wrote this!

I'm in a "complicated" situation myself. Basically, there is a guy (older guy I've mentioned before whom I THINK I have a date w/ on Friday - I'll explain more on that later) who has a crush on me - I have a big one right back at him. I've done some talking to my counselor and we believe I'm ready for this. Yes, my divorce is recent, but I'm also not the "curl up in a ball and die" type. My XH had been pulling away for a LONG time, so I was well prepared to move on. In fact, it only took being seperated for 48 hours for me to realize my daily life hasn't changed one bit w/o him.

ANYWAY.... I've been hanging out w/ this guy for a while now. We just finished one show together, and now we're in another, and are cast for another one starting in November, and he's directing another one that I'll probably either be in or assistant direct. We hang out outside of theater too. When we're outside of it, we talk about anything BUT theater, just to be sure there is some real foundation there.

SO we finally came to a point where we both admitted we have crushes on each other. AND in the same breath he comes out and tells me he's experimenting w/ a bisexual reletionship - that he doesn't think it'll last, etc etc. Being in theater, it's not uncommon for this kind of thing to occur, so I accepted it w/o an issue. But we still see a lot of each other. We're inviting each other over w/ friends around, etc. I would say, outside of rehersals we communicate daily and see each other several times. So... I'm just staying really good friends for now, because I don't want to be the "other person" in his reletionship. In fact, I refuse to be... BUT....

if it really is nothing serious then I guess we ARE dating? It's confusing! Anyway, we're both really looking forward to Friday night.

Geesh! Talk about complicated!
- J

- J. Darling

Singehttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Headshots/Picture001.jpgr, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 11:33pm
That is a little bit complicated... but, the main thing that that you know you're not dead (I worried I was when I was divorcing... I didn't even want to think about dating.... ever... ever... again.), and that you're having fun!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 9:38am

Yup! I think it surprises my XH too! He sends me e-mails and text messages, trying to ask how I am, etc. I think we both expected me to curl up in a ball and die - which I did, for about 24 hours.... after that, I realized, as they say in Fried Green Tomatoes, "Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'". So I chose the former and have been having a blast.

No matter what comes out of my reletionship w/ C, I know I'll have a good friend that I can count on. Yesterday he called me just to make small talk and make me smile. That felt great to have someone care enough to call and cheer me up. :)

And - Hey! I'm going to see RENT for the very first time on stage, in 2 days!!!! I can't wait (date or not, but dinner and a play has all the ear marks of a date to me)! :)
- J

- J. Darling

Singehttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Headshots/Picture001.jpgr, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 10:51am

I hope your day got better. I know what you mean when the kids away you want to play but for some reason no one seems to be around! I have been on other boards but have not been to this one. Actually, I haven't been on the other boards for quite some time. Reading about everyone's dating adventures started to get me down. I can't seem to get in the swing of it. I'm at the point where I actually might want someone in my life and can't seemed to find anyone. So I go along....volunteering, hanging with friends, school/sports activities with my daughter....and whatever else I can think of to actually try to meet people. I live in a really small town, so guess what, I see the same people all the time! I go out of town as much as I can, but that gets kind of expensive with gas being high.

Like you there is one guy that I would really like something to happen with. I call him my 6-month guy because that's how often he contacts me. I'm very physically attracted to him, but don't like the 6-month thing. He contacted me again at the first part of May and we talked on the phone through the first part of july. We went just riding around a couple of times, then wham! he quits calling and I don't hear from him. He does this every time and why I even answer the phone is beyond me. Shame on me!!!! It's getting easier on me every time it happens and at this point I'm not dwelling on it too much. Play with fire...you get burnt!