Give it a go with Joe?
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Give it a go with Joe?
| Sun, 03-08-2009 - 11:14pm |
I ended a long-term/long distance relationship a few months back. Afterwards, I starting going on casual dates with this guy Joe. I really like him and enjoy being around him. I feel that we are compatible. I am just a little torn. I don't want to jump into things too soon. My last relationship got so bad that everytime I talked to my ex on the phone when he was still my boyfriend I would have panic attacks because he played horrible head games. I am getting over the anxiety and things are calming down. However, my ex still calls me, texts me, and e-mails me. I do not answer him, and I am writing him an e-mail this week to stop contacting me or the police will have to get involved. He has caused me a lot of stress by threatening suicide, and claiming that he may have cancer, all to try and get me to see him during my spring break when I go to our hometown where he is.
I just don't want to ruin things with Joe by going to fast, yet I don't want to ruin things by going too slow and waiting. I have a bad habit of not making decisions and letting situations slip by. Should I wait till my ex stops bothering me and let myself cool off before I jump into anything? I may have answered my own question.
Also, I am worried that this new guy will have some dark side that I don't see yet. It causes me to question him a lot and put him through mini-tests. How do I learn to trust again? When will I know I am ready to make this Joe thing serious. He said he wants it to be serious whenever I am ready.
I just don't want to ruin things with Joe by going to fast, yet I don't want to ruin things by going too slow and waiting. I have a bad habit of not making decisions and letting situations slip by. Should I wait till my ex stops bothering me and let myself cool off before I jump into anything? I may have answered my own question.
Also, I am worried that this new guy will have some dark side that I don't see yet. It causes me to question him a lot and put him through mini-tests. How do I learn to trust again? When will I know I am ready to make this Joe thing serious. He said he wants it to be serious whenever I am ready.

No, no, do not contact your ex at all for any reason.
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