Got my hopes up...
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| Wed, 01-06-2010 - 12:18pm |
I'm new here so thought I'd start with a lil history...
I'm 31 years old, have one child, stable career, independent, etc.. I'm divorced & have been single for almost 2 years. For the better part of the 1st year I was single all my friends told me to get out & start dating but I wasn't gonna go "looking for a man" then out of the blue someone walked into my life & swept me off my feet when I least expected it. I fell head over heals in love & he broke my heart. Since then.. I've been dating. It's like I didn't know what I was missing until I spent time with that man. My dating life is hilarious & I have the worst luck in the world. My friends say I'm too pickey (I'm not gonna settle) & I've had several really good guys that wanted instant relationships & that scared me away. Why is it that we always want the ones that don't want us???!!!
Anyway I recently met a man online & we started spending alot of time together. He was the 1st man in forever that I could be myself with. Our personalities & sence of humors matched perfectly! Everything was great, I had met his brother & was getting ready to introduce him to my daughter/family (we had decided to be exclusive). UNTIL..... I was spending the night with him (which I had done several times) & his "ex" showed up in the middle of the night causing drama, keyed my car, etc.. The next day she came back & told me why she was so mad. Apparently she had been with him the night before..when he had conveniently fallen asleep on the couch & didn't hear my calls all night. Needless to say thats over. BUT I still miss him!! I had really gotten my hopes up about this guy..
I liked him so much this I actually thought about believing his lies. But I'm too smart for that & theres no way I can walk into a new relationship with trust issues.
Back to square one!! UGH!!
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In all honesty?
Well, that bites.
Thanks for the replies..
When she started telling me she had just been with him the night before I didn't want to believe it. BUT when she told me she found my panties (lost in the sheets & she described them to a T) in his bed it was hard not to believe her. Not to mention the night she was with him, he didn't answer my calls all night. He said he fell asleep & didn't hear his phone. Still, I wanted to believe him.. He said that she had came over the night before & used his restroom & thats how she saw my things but I caught him in a lie that he finally admitted to. Although he never admitted to sleeping with her that night, he did admit to telling her he still loves her & that they'd had sex a month ago. He had been telling me it had been 4 months. He'd been saying he was trying to get rid of her. I can tell you if I was truly trying to get rid of someone they wouldn't be in my house & I wouldn't be telling them I love them.
Regardless of wether he slept with her or not he's still a liar. I CANNOT start a new relationship with trust issues. I really liked him & could have seen a future with him. However, he lives an hour away (I did all the commuting) & if I had stayed with him, everytime he didn't answer the phone I would think he's with someone else. I cant live like that.