He cut me off his life

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Registered: 02-07-2009
He cut me off his life
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Sat, 03-07-2009 - 4:43pm

Long post, probably won't get any answers but it is what it is. Sorry and thanks for reading.

Last thursday a guy from work ask me on a date. We went out on saturday. It was great. GREAT. For both of us. I was trying to stay cold, meaning taking it easy. But he start saying things such as he likes me ever since the first time he saw me at work, 2 months ago. I went to his house on tuesday and I slept with him. During work he'll always send me SMS saying how pretty I am and that he adores me and that he wants to kiss me and be with me. On thursday was his birthday and his friends planned a dinner but he told me all he wanted was to be with me. He didn't go to the dinner even though I insisted him and I went to his house. Everything happening so fast and I am so scared and he's saying how I'd go to his house (family house out of town) meet his dog, sunbathe, swimming pool. He said he'd take me there. He suggested cooking together one day.
And I screwed it all up. Yesterday I screwed it all up. He's always been so direct so I told him that, since he's so direct I wanted him to know that this guy asked me out. (I know WHAT ON EARTH WAS I THINKING!?!?!? And that's not all! It gets WORSE!!!
And he said it was ok. I can go out with whoever I wanted. So I pushed, of course. And I just wanted to tell him that I choose him and I said that "if you two asked me to go out the same day, I'd choose you, know it".
He goes: "hahahahahaha" "who do you think you are?" "BYE".
Then I start telling him EVERYTHING I feel I called him instantly but he wouldn't pick up the phone. And he said, "nati, it's over." "Bye." "You're not going to convince me of anything." "I'm bored" "I don't want this". And I kept trying to make him understand. Then after hundreds of byes on his side (funny thing he didn't just block me if it was really done) all this at 0130am. He then goes "do you want to have a threesome?". I said, "are you kidding me?" "Why are you doing this?" and he said... you should ask yourself that question. That he said like at about 0315am. (why would he leave his computer on the whole night? he never does that!!! and why would he come back to the computer at 3am?!?!?) And then I said that I thought it was better not discussing it at the moment but it was just a self distructing act to ruin the happiness I had and the beautiful thing that was going on. And that I understood were he stood but i would really appreciate if he'd let me talk to him in person. He never answered to that.
This morning he told me (msn, again); "It's a pity nati". I said "I know" and I apologized for my self destructive act and thanked him for one of the most beautiful weeks I had in a long time. And in between he said "you must know why you did that".
I told him I'd rather talk to him in person and I told him all this was his decision. And he wouldn't reply. I told him I'd like to know what he thought, but nothing. No answer.

I know there's no possible way for you to know what he thinks. It could be many things. I turned him off completely with my comment and he's no longer interested. He was really hurt (hence the threesome comment) and he really cares.

I need you to guess if I will get to talk to him in person. He was SO into me I cannot believe how this happened. I want to wake up from this nightmare.

I know for now I should just wait. At least a couple of days to say something, as in wanting to see him. But he started the conversation today on msn. At least two lines and then I'm off speaking by myself.

Yesterday was depressing, it was like I was begging. Really lame.

By the way, he's from work but, effective on monday, the company I work for moved out of the floor we shared. So I don't get to see him unless he wants to or I turn into a stalker. I know that if he sees me he's going to feel things and maybe that's why he doesn't want to see me.

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Registered: 02-07-2009
Sat, 03-07-2009 - 4:47pm
It was PERFECT. And all of a sudden, one week later I'm crying.
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Mon, 03-09-2009 - 11:20am

I dont know if its just me but I dont understand your post at all, its all jumbled up and there seems to be words and sentences missing.


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Registered: 05-04-2007
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:50pm

I don't really understand either.

But ... seems like he was all talk. All the plans were things that sounded nice, but it was just talk. Meeting his dog?

Kind of rude that he didn't go to the party his friends were making for him.

It sounds like he already had an idea in his head, that's why he wouldn't talk to you. He already thought something about "women" & when you said you had another guy ask you out, it triggered all his crazy insecurities.

You could have said anything. It seems like he still would've gone crazy. You don't freak out that bad over one little comment. He had some baggage from the past. He's blaming you for his problem.

I'm sorry it went badly. Keep your head up! You'll feel better again soon

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 02-10-2009
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 11:31pm
Sounds like an ex bf from online I was with maybe you finally met him in real life. Stay away from this guy he seems VERY insecure. You guys arent even in a relationship and hes acting like this b/c some other guy has your attention wow..if anything it should make him want to work harder not be a jerk about it. I remember my ex wanted an "open" relationshp (rofl) so when I found a guy we had a huge argument over the dumbest thing about it (i know he was jealous). So stupid...stop being all depressed over this sorry guy and find a new one. He will do nothing but cause you pain.
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Registered: 07-30-2007
Tue, 04-07-2009 - 2:03am

Not to be rude but from what I understand from your post, he sounds like a jackass and very immature.