Is he flirting? HELP!

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Registered: 03-30-2009
Is he flirting? HELP!
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 4:09pm

OK so i've been out of the dating game for ages now, simply by choice. I've not met anyone in a long time who i've found attractive, until now!


I work with him and over the past few weeks the more i talk to him the more i'm finding him attractive. The thing is, i'm fairly sure he's flirting with me but i just wanted to check what people on here thought in case he's just being friendly.


He's 26 - i don't know if that makes a difference. He's always coming to borrow things from me when i'm pretty sure he doesn't need to. He hovers around me more than any of the other girls and is always chatting to me. Now here's the playground stuff which makes me think he's flirting, he often pretends to try and trip me up, he sticks his tongue out at me and often mimicks what i'm saying, you know how kids do! He is single.


So what do you guys think, is this flirting or being friendly? I don't want to make a fool out of myself by flirting too much back! I'm pretty sure it's flirting but i'm not sure if that's just cos that's what i want it to be, if that makes sense!!


Thanks xx

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 9:14pm

I think you've got him if you want him. The question is, do you want someone you work with? If things go south, it can be an uncomfortable environment.

However, if you're interested, go for it.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 9:14am

First thing is its not wise to date coworkers, having said that the next thing is his actions are very childish, I would not be interested in a 26 yr old that sticks his tongue out and mimicks what I say, a big turn off for me.


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Registered: 12-02-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 9:47am
I'd like to give you an unbiased and more objective response. And hope this might help you. Men have different personalities: goofy, too serious, workaholic, jerk a.k.a. player, loser lol and lot more..you name it.. If he's the goofy type which certainly fits your description of him, unless he's just acting goofy to catch your attention. Go figure.. Some guys won't directly ask you out even if they're dead serious of wanting to date you. But they just can't do that that easy. So one of their known tactics is to catch the girls attention (desperately sometimes). Flirting is one way of letting you know they like you--I don't see anything wrong with that. Besides its a human nature or rather any human do that instinctively when they're attracted to the opposite sex. Its only wrong if men flirts with other women while they're in a relationship or if they have bad intentions. Next, evaluate the pattern of his gestures. Does he just trying to cheer you up when you're not in best moods? Does he do this with other attractive coworker? go figure.. As for having a relationship with a coworker, its usually against most companies' rules and it might affect your work potential and attitude either in good or bad way..But it still depends on how you handle things. Then evaluate if he possess the character you look for in a guy by setting aside your attraction to him--this is the only way to think objectively if he deserves our attention and all.. Keep me posted. God bless =)