Is he hiding something or is it me?

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Registered: 12-16-2007
Is he hiding something or is it me?
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Fri, 03-01-2013 - 11:05am

Ok I just got out of a manipulative, controlling an sexless marriage last year. I just started dating this January. I have been out with 4 different guys, all nice in their own right. One guy I felt the most connection I have gone out with him 3 times now in two weeks and we really seem to hit it off. He tells me he wants us to be exclusive. He texts me all the time. Ok, and maybe I am reading into things because of things my ex use to do, but he is starting to make me think something is up. He lives like 2 minutes from my work. He will text me, playing says how he wants to see me and misses me so I have asked him to come see me at work, "Oh no I cant do that Im tired"......ok. I play with him and say Im gonna come see him after I get off work, "oh no Im already in bed Im tired, or you cant my son is visiting". .....ok. He texts me, lil playful inuendos, I text him back and forth, I call him, he doesnt answer or it goes straight to voicemail. I have only actually talked to him on the phone once and thats when he was picking me up at my house for our 2nd date and he got lost. Also, when we text he will just stop, never answering questions or making comments on what I just asked. Either he never responds back till the next day or I dont hear from him for a while 1, 2, 3 hrs then he starts with the lil cute flirting again telling me how beautiful I am, how he wants to be with me and how he cant wait for us to get to know each other better, saying stuff like I wanna be yours and only yours. I dont know. As I said I am getting suspicious, epecially with the phone calls, I know he has the phone, we are texting each other and instead of texting my response I try to call and then he doesnt answer or sends it to voicemail, then gives me an excuse like I was at the Dr office and I couldnt answer, or I was at the drive thru, or some other excuse. I say if you can incessantly text me you can answer the phone. I know its only been 3 dates and just 2 weeks but really. Am I being played? Is he still married and not divorced like he said.  I think I am.

Malificient

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 1:51pm

The fact that he doesn't answer the phone while he has the phone in his hand texting you is suspicious.  I think if he was actually at the dr's office he would probably mention it earlier in the conversation.  It would make sense if he is with someone that he could text even while the woman was in the room, but not be able to talk to you.  Since he is close to your work, have you driven by the house to see if there are 2 cars in the driveway?

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