he tried to have sex on our 2nd date

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Registered: 10-11-2009
he tried to have sex on our 2nd date
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Sun, 10-11-2009 - 6:08pm

Ok, this might be obvious..but then again, men are NEVER obvious to me, LOL.

I went out with this guy for the second time. He tried to sleep with me but I said i was not ready, and he said ok i won't. We fooled around a little bit, but i kept to my word--no sex.

So does this mean he just wants sex? He's a sweet guy and i was a little surprised he tried to get it right away. But not THAT surprised because he is a male, haha. I've gone on dates where the guy hasn't tried to kiss me til the 4th or 5th date! So i'm just looking for a little insight :)I know i sounds a little naive, pretty new to this dating game!

Thanks!

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Sat, 10-24-2009 - 1:06pm

I guess I fit in here somewhere in that - I had sex on a first meet situation. And I have to say it was pretty fantastic. Enough that I thought - I would like to get to know this guy better. And ever since then, I realized the chemistry had only existed on one night.

I have tried to go out with him some more, but the conversation falls flat, and he is too clingy. (Texting repeatedly and wanting to plan several dates in a row in the future). I have weaned him from texting, and am working up the courage to let him off easily. I tried, and it was just too difficult and awkward of a date.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-24-2009 - 2:44pm

Oh, I would not advise accepting a 2nd date at a guy's house!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 10-25-2009 - 10:00am

I have done the deed on the second date only to have the guy blow me off, then get mad at ME because I called him on his rude behavior.

The one I am seeing now, I went to his house for a second date, but didn't sleep with him...saved it for the fourth date! Still seeing him weeks later, but the difference is that we see each other during times when we CAN'T sleep together, like when he has his kids, or it's an afternoon date.

There is nothing ickier than the feeling that a guy is only in it to get some from you, especially when they start off acting like they really like you.

I think the key is to not worry about what THEY want, but worry about what makes YOU feel OK. If he can't keep his pants on, then in the end, he probably won't be that respectful of you in other areas, so who needs someone like that around?

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Sun, 10-25-2009 - 8:57pm

Yeah, I second this one, emotionally and physically. And I'm going through it right now.

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Sun, 10-25-2009 - 9:08pm

I think the key is to not worry about what THEY want, but worry about what makes YOU feel OK.


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