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Registered: 05-25-2005
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Fri, 01-23-2009 - 2:26pm
I met a nice guy at work that was so into me at first and then he said he wanna be friends. He continues to call me now and then. I think I call him or text him about once every 2 days. I definitely call him more than he calls me. He told me the last time he has had his heart broken and doesn't want to let anyone in. I have shown him and even told him I like him and when he is ready to date, I would give him a chance. But we had a heated talk about women he dates, he says there are no good ones left. Later I left him a heated message about the things he said. The next day I called him to apologize but he said he had not got the message yet and then he has not called me since. I will see him at work today and I am a bit nervous. I think he is no longer into me and I need to leave him alone but I am really embarrassed that I put so much time into him and told him how I like him just after 1 1/2 month of talking. Now he is seeing other females and he calls me and tells me about them (this before our argument) I am so sad and embarrassed about this situation. I know I should move on but I am so embarrassed and I still like him and I have to work with him. Thanks for listening. oh last thought when i call him he text me back.
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Registered: 12-02-2007
In reply to: motivated252005
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 8:35am
We sometimes do stupid things unintentionally but though how much we regret it, we can no longer change or correct what we just did.. But unless you leave it there, stop wallowing about the guy, and re-possess your sense of self, you can never move on.. Its pity realizing that most women keep little hopes ignited without realizing how misleading it would be to hope and wallow over some guy who's no longer interested.. And the fact that the more you chase him, the more he sees how obviously your interest were upon him, the more he'll pull away.. If he's seeing other women, and you apparently barely notice that you're the one whose initiating or doing the first move, you better wake up and win back your sense of self---a.k.a. self-respect. Don't be ashamed of him, neither with any guy, instead be ashamed on your self for wasting your interest and time over "some guy".. There are plenty of guys out there who can be an interesting match.. dare to date one. I always say this, "ACT LIKE A PRIZE", but I know it's the best advise I could give you. Know whaT YOU want instead.
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Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: motivated252005
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 1:09pm

Another reason why people should not date co workers.


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