Help...How do I find a GOOD man?
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Help...How do I find a GOOD man?
| Fri, 05-16-2008 - 7:43pm |
Hi Everyone,
I'm new at this site and am hoping for some advice.
| Fri, 05-16-2008 - 7:43pm |
Hi Everyone,
I'm new at this site and am hoping for some advice.
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It is tough out there, and the number of sleaze-balls out there makes me cringe. Internet dating my be "easy" but most of the people you meet are not worth your time. I am 47 with three kids that live with me on the weekends. I had a g/f shortly after my divorce for two years, and recently we broke-up. I tried several of the "dating" sites, and found most of them either a rip-off or the women that are available are looking for their "new" Mr. Right, and what they wanted was their "old" Mr. Right in a slightly new package.
Don't waste your time at clubs or bars, most of the guys you meet there are looking for one-night stands and the "easy score" after a couple three drinks. Find a couple of social groups that cater to the newly-separated to get back into the game, but first make sure you know who you are, and keep your confidence up. Join a gym, clean-up your wardrobe. After 18 years of marriage I am sure it more reflects a married woman than a single one.
As for sex, out here in California a jackass DJ named Tom Lykas, or "Lick-ass" as I call him teach men how to score. He encourages men to dump a woman if no sex by the third date. There is no chance to develop a relationship if you are jumping into bed so quickly. Good decent men are still out there. The more you are in a rush to replace your ex, the worse choice you will make.
Magic
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Great advice Magic and everyone else.
All I can say is do not look, seems when I am not looking I seem to find someone. Why they have not work out (there job moved them away) I was very happy with them, they seem to drop into my lap for say. The guys that I have asked out seem to only want sex also. So it works both ways.
I know I am going to take a hit on this, but I will say it anyways. I was very much in love with my ex wife, even if I am gay. I had a very very hard time with everything. After some time I just started to go out with guys I had known wanted only sex. Some I did, most I did not. But it got me out there and talking. If not for them I would never have met the 2 guys that where the ones (I still talk to both of them, and they both know it). Other then that, not sure what else to say.
I agree with you on the wannabe's! But I don't think waiting is the answer. You need to be out there doing what you love and you will find someone who loves that too!
Sitting at home waiitng and praying that a man will knock on your door is a crazy as not working and hoping someone will knock at your door with a million dollars!
Like anything in life you have to work at it and than you will be rewarded.
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