here goes again, hate it
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here goes again, hate it
| Wed, 04-15-2009 - 7:50pm |
all advice welcome but particularly guys' pov
I met a guy from online dating first meet on Feb 14 briefly. Went well. After that we continued to email, text, occ phone calls.

If he behaves selfishly at the beginning of the relationship, how will he behave later? This guy told you he had other blind dates and he then told you that you weren't important enough for him to stay up a little later.
No matter how much you like the guy, he needs to show you more respect or he is going to make you miserable. I say don't meet him unless he acknowledges how rude it was to stand you up, and even then, he should be "on probation."
Hi,
I wasn't sure if that was what he said (two blind dates) - that would really be out of character and absolutely stupid. I told people but didn't have the chance to let other people listen to the msg to make sure.
Anyway, just standing me up was enough. I did text him back 4 days later. "stuffed, how was yours". Haven't heard from him. So that was that. Next!
I think this is a NEXT immediately, even if you kind of liked him.
Here's why...he kind of jerked you around, yet said you were too valuable to put on hold. Hmmm, if you are so valuable, he would want to see you asap. Furthermore, he wouldn't go ages between messages.
After going out with two commitmentphobes over the past year, I learned a couple of things. First, if he isn't making dates with you, he's not interested. Second, guys who do a lot of texting as a primary form of communication, leaving weird messages should also be avoided. They will defend it to the end, saying they are just technologically savvy, I say it's a lazy way to communicate. PLUS, you can be sure the are texting LOTS of others.
I have no problem with texting per se, I use it to tell people I am running late, or a quick joke when it's not a good time to call. Last night my last textaholic former beau sent me 5 texts at 2AM. You can be sure he was drunk. I haven't spoken to him in weeks. Yet from the amount he texted, he could have left a voice mail.
If he really likes you and wants to be with you, he won't go four days between e-mails. Some will disagree, but these "techie" men have so many communication devices at their fingertips they are never too busy or far away from their toys to send a one line e-mail
yes, I did an immediate "next". That was why I
I think you are right. These are not men looking for relationships, they are looking for a good time or a hook up. I've had guys I've "met" on line not respond to my email for 9 days, yet you could see they've been on line every day.
If I hear from someone like that, I generally assume everyone else they have been in contact with has blown them off and I am a fall back or something. I mean, I might wait a day or two, for no other reason than I was too busy/tired to email back, but NINE days?
So you don't want these people in your life!