Here we go again....

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Registered: 06-17-2011
Here we go again....
Sat, 01-26-2013 - 10:09am

Hi. I have been dating a guy for a few months. He is a nice guy and we have alot in common, We talk every day and see each other often. I do however have one issue with him. He talks about his Ex alot. They lived together for 13 yrs and I seem to know a bit too much about her including her Bday (thanks to him). At first, I didn't care but as time has progressed I realize that his talking about her is bothering me ans I am begininng to question his honesty. Yesterday he told me that she was a model. (Great!!!! I said to myself. Now, I have to deal with a super model. lol!!! ) About a month ago, he told me he met a girl on match that showed up at his office in a bikini. He said she only did that 1 time. Then last week he said that she followed him home from his office and showed up at his house in a bikini a few times. I Said to him...but you only said 1 time, he told me that I misunderstood. Then last Sunday, we spoke and he told me that some girl he met before me called to wish him a Happy New Year and asked if they could get together for a drink and he said no, he is dating someone. Now, this is my ? much of all this is true? Is he lying or embellishing the truth? Is he trying to fill his own ego? Is he trying to make me jealous or think that he is so fabulous and wanted? Is it a self esteem issue? I am divorced and my marriage ended bc my ex was a cheater. I don't want to go down that road again. Am I being too sensitive? Should I end it with him?

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 01-29-2013 - 10:17am

I think his behavior is very insensitive. I made it a point to not talk about other women while I was dating a certain person. They certainly did not want to know and I certainly did not want to hear their exploits with other men. He seems to enjoy waving all of these other women in your face. I do not think that is a good sign for the future with this guy.

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Registered: 08-08-2012
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 1:12pm

Did you see the thread below yours?

Might have some tips there.

If you are having an issue about him constantly talking about his ex, sounds kinda like he is puffing himself up, and if you are worried about him being honest, those are all big red flags.