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How do you view yourself?
| Sun, 04-12-2009 - 11:50am |
When it comes to dating, how do you view yourself? I view myself as a person of integrity with a dash of exotic spice thrown in. My life hasn't always been perfect and I have made some mistakes, but it has all lead me to who I am now...nice yet spicey. How do you view yourself when it comes to dating? :)

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I'd say that is a good analogy. Fun but nice. I dont' stand people up, take advantage of them, or mislead.
I view myself as someone who is both wise and inexperienced. I am wise because I have lived a fairly long time. (I'm in my fifties.) I know a lot about people because I've been a teacher for more than 30 years. I was married for 20 years,which gave me another important type of experience.
But when it comes to dating, I am inexperienced. My divorce was final less than 5 years ago, and I wouldn't date before it was final. The dating world I left when I married is completely gone. I have to worry about AIDS and all sorts of stuff that weren't even thought of when I was young. Then the way adults with decent disposable income is very different from the way college and graduate students date. I'm fairly inexperienced there also.
I agree with the other posters, that I see myself as having integrity. I have never (not even in my young days) betrayed or cheated on anyone. I have never "used" anyone nor have I ever been unkind when I have had to reject someone (except that rejection is painful in itself). But I think I take my integrity for granted. What I feel strongest about my dating is that I feel a little confused about how to do it this time around. How much of what I learned in life can I apply to this new/old experience?
Thank you all for your replies and sorry it took so long to get back to you.
cm_stepanie, you asked how my dating life is right now? Well, I am not dating anyone at the moment. I am talking to someone, but "realistically", I would be nuts if I said it was a relationship or that we were dating. Truthfully, I don't really know what my dating future holds at this point. I am not worried about it though because I do have faith in myself and I know what I want. That's all I can really say right now. :)
Thanks for asking.
I dont want to ever get hurt againn or left or cry because of a man. So i come across very interesting yet reserved.
I've talked about this a lot with friends who are dating. Some of the things--NO--many many of the stories I read on these boards reek of unkindness. It's almost a throw-away attitude. I will never be like that.
I really don't *ghost*. If I accept an invitation, I'm there. It's corny, but it's a golden rule sort of thing with me. And I've got an adventurous spirit; you can't leave home without it if you're a teacher because you've got to keep ahead of the kids. Same way with men. I'm no goody-goody, but I think politeness and integrity go with the mix.
Keeps my conscience clear.