How do you view yourself?

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Registered: 04-12-2009
How do you view yourself?
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Sun, 04-12-2009 - 11:50am
When it comes to dating, how do you view yourself? I view myself as a person of integrity with a dash of exotic spice thrown in. My life hasn't always been perfect and I have made some mistakes, but it has all lead me to who I am now...nice yet spicey. How do you view yourself when it comes to dating? :)
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Registered: 11-29-2006
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 12:16pm
I've been married for so long, I don't think I ever had a dating view, lol, but it sounds like you have a fun view of your dating self. How does your dating pool look these days?

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 7:54pm

I'd say that is a good analogy. Fun but nice. I dont' stand people up, take advantage of them, or mislead.

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 9:57pm

I view myself as someone who is both wise and inexperienced. I am wise because I have lived a fairly long time. (I'm in my fifties.) I know a lot about people because I've been a teacher for more than 30 years. I was married for 20 years,which gave me another important type of experience.

But when it comes to dating, I am inexperienced. My divorce was final less than 5 years ago, and I wouldn't date before it was final. The dating world I left when I married is completely gone. I have to worry about AIDS and all sorts of stuff that weren't even thought of when I was young. Then the way adults with decent disposable income is very different from the way college and graduate students date. I'm fairly inexperienced there also.

I agree with the other posters, that I see myself as having integrity. I have never (not even in my young days) betrayed or cheated on anyone. I have never "used" anyone nor have I ever been unkind when I have had to reject someone (except that rejection is painful in itself). But I think I take my integrity for granted. What I feel strongest about my dating is that I feel a little confused about how to do it this time around. How much of what I learned in life can I apply to this new/old experience?

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Registered: 04-12-2009
Sat, 04-25-2009 - 5:24pm

Thank you all for your replies and sorry it took so long to get back to you.

cm_stepanie, you asked how my dating life is right now? Well, I am not dating anyone at the moment. I am talking to someone, but "realistically", I would be nuts if I said it was a relationship or that we were dating. Truthfully, I don't really know what my dating future holds at this point. I am not worried about it though because I do have faith in myself and I know what I want. That's all I can really say right now. :)

Thanks for asking.

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Registered: 04-12-2009
Tue, 05-05-2009 - 8:23pm
Ever have one of those days when no matter what you do only good feelings surface? And then you cross your fingers and hope nothing comes along to take it away? You know...a day where the right song plays on the radio like "Here Comes the Sun" and you feel it even though its been raining forever. I over heard my daughter say to her boyfriend "I miss you and I love you baby." *Sigh* :) How nice!
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Registered: 06-28-2006
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 6:07am

I dont want to ever get hurt againn or left or cry because of a man. So i come across very interesting yet reserved.

x Cardbury x
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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 6:24am

I've talked about this a lot with friends who are dating. Some of the things--NO--many many of the stories I read on these boards reek of unkindness. It's almost a throw-away attitude. I will never be like that.

I really don't *ghost*. If I accept an invitation, I'm there. It's corny, but it's a golden rule sort of thing with me. And I've got an adventurous spirit; you can't leave home without it if you're a teacher because you've got to keep ahead of the kids. Same way with men. I'm no goody-goody, but I think politeness and integrity go with the mix.

Keeps my conscience clear.