How many dates...?

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Registered: 11-04-1999
How many dates...?
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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 10:49am

I would say this question is for both men and women, but I'm male and I know the answer for most men...one.  If you enjoy spending time with a guy, how many dates does it take before you will seriously consider having intercourse with him?  I'll bet the answers would be all over the charts on this one.   

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Registered: 08-09-2012
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 1:09pm

mancreature wrote:
<p>I would say this question is for both men and women, but I'm male and I know the answer for most men...one.  If you enjoy spending time with a guy, how many dates does it take before you will seriously consider having intercourse with him?  I'll bet the answers would be all over the charts on this one.   </p>

One cannot figure out if they enjoy spending time with the guy unless they've been around them for more than one date. 

The first date would be about the rush of meeting someone new and the afterglow from that would bend my mind either towards or away from that person. The second date would be for me to make sure what I'd conjured up in my mind about him after the first date actually held water.  Then from there, the third date and so on, I would be paying attention to compatibility issues with them. I'm sure that by the third date, we would have either been emailing one another and talking on the phone in between the dates.  It would not do to become sexually involved with someone with whom I had fundamental differences.

I would not be in a hurry to bed them after one date, certainly.  I'm 53, so your mileage may vary. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 4:25pm

It depends on the guy==if I really like him and am attracted to him it could be very soon but if I'm feeling kind of "meh" about him, I could go on several dates & not have any interest.  

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 4:26pm

It depends on the guy==if I really like him and am attracted to him it could be very soon but if I'm feeling kind of "meh" about him, I could go on several dates & not have any interest.  

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Registered: 01-25-2000
Fri, 01-18-2013 - 2:27pm

I always put out on the first date, if they guy spends any money.

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Registered: 08-01-2012
Fri, 01-18-2013 - 9:38pm

Good question...but it's not really about how MANY dates. The more important factor involves the level of commitment the man is ready to give and if that level is acceptable to the woman. Some men are ready to get serious within the first few dates (eliminating the need to wait). 

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Registered: 10-02-2001
Thu, 04-18-2013 - 4:34am

I will only be intimate with a man when I am in love with him and we are in an exclusive, monogamous relationship.  The time to get there varies depending on the person.  I am also 53, and if only I had the strength and self-confidence to stick to my guns when I was younger!  I regret the times I was talked into having sex when I was not ready, or comfortable.