How red flags mean "deal breaker"?

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Registered: 04-22-2009
How red flags mean "deal breaker"?
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 9:18pm

If you read my other post "settling?", I will say that after nine months we broke up completely.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 12:53am
k_oliver00 wrote:


As I look back over the past nine months, I realize that there were many red flags early on that I ignored.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 11:00am

I think it really depends on the person, and how much they're willing to tolerate or put up with.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-17-2011 - 12:48pm

I think it depends on what the "red flag" is and whether it's something you think you can live with--I know that I married my 2nd DH while ignoring some huge red flags, the main one being his anger issues--turned out that I found out after we got married that he has bipolar disorder, which explained a lot, but I shouldn't have ignored the outbursts & behavior that was all out of proportion to the allgeged "offense."

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Sat, 02-19-2011 - 6:42am

I guess I feel like defining the terms here.