I don't know if I blew it, I feel cheap!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
I don't know if I blew it, I feel cheap!
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Mon, 11-03-2008 - 5:35pm

Hello all, I hope someone can shed a light to my dilemma.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2008
Mon, 11-03-2008 - 10:08pm

I don't think you blew it. If he pulls back now its because he is just the type of man who is only into the chase. I doubt thats the case if he waited 2 months.You are both adults,I think 2 months is a long time to hold out...so congrats on making it that long...I wouldnt have!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 8:05am

It sounds like you're asking two questions -- one did you blow it and the other should you feel cheap.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 2:12pm

Thank you so much for taking the time to analyze my situation, I really appreciate it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 7:45am

What do I think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 3:00pm

Again, thanks for all your wisdom and insight in helping me see everything in a different light.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 6:21pm

I had sort of the same experience with my first guy after I got divorced (I'm 44). He came on pretty strong and I was very, very flattered. The sex was phenomenal. But, the communication sucked. He was great and attentive when we were together, but I can think of only two times when he initiated a phone call or text. He wanted to meet my kids, but wouldn't commit to any kind of relationship. Very confusing.

In the end, I think he wanted an FWB situation, but I am not that kind of person. I didn't like feeling that I could be brushed aside so easily. We had a spat, he "came back" but it wasn't the same, so I told him that I really wanted to be with someone who really wanted to be with me. Sometimes I miss his company, but I would rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't want to be with me that much.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 10:52pm

I've heard people say the same thing, that with the right person there isn't much wondering.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 11-06-2008 - 12:36pm

You got it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 11-06-2008 - 12:39pm
Thanks again for your wonderful replies!