I don't know what to do....

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Registered: 12-19-2010
I don't know what to do....
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Sun, 12-19-2010 - 6:02pm

This is all quick but, I need some advice before I lose my mind....Here it goes....I recently joined an online dating website. On there, I found a guy that I always had a crush on but was never able to say anything to his face about it. So, I sent him an email on the website just asking if he remembered me and if he would like to chat...He wrote me back the following day and said of course he remembers me and yes, he would like to chat but, a family member was ill and he was traveling to see her the following day. He said to send him a Facebook message and he would get them on his phone. That night, I send him a FB message just saying hi and trying to start up conversation.....He didn't respond. The following morning, I resent the message. I don't know if it ever even sent from my Blackberry the first time around which is why I resent it. A few hours later, his status said his grandmother had passed away. Obviously, still no response. This morning, I sent him a condolences email and still heard nothing. He's in Florida with his family right now....

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 12-20-2010 - 6:22am

Take a deep breath.

The man has just watched his grandmother die and then gone to the funeral. I'm thinking dating just isn't on his mind right now.

The ball is in his court. Do not send any more messages right now until you hear from him.

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Registered: 12-19-2010
Tue, 12-21-2010 - 6:43pm

Hmm..Well, I still haven't heard anything but, he has been posting random pictures on his Facebook while he was gone..I don't even know why I am getting worked up over this. I just don't understand how he would tell me to send him emails on his FB when he was gone because he would get them on his phone but, he doesn't respond? Not even a word or two??

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Tue, 12-21-2010 - 10:23pm
No I don't think he is ignoring you, he is dealing with a family death. The death of a family member is really hard no matter how old they are. It is never easy.

I will tell you this though. You are coming across a little too eager and anxious. The two of you haven't even met up yet and you are expecting a response? When you know he is dealing with a death in the family? I'm not saying this to be harsh, but you need to back up a bit, you are giving him too much too soon. Even though it's only a few messages. Don't wait around for a response, go about your life and if he contacts you go from there. If he senses that you are expecting a response he may feel you are being too needy and it will make him back away. Let him contact you when he is ready and be a little mysterious.