I Feel Guilty

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Registered: 05-06-2008
I Feel Guilty
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 4:48am

My life seems as though it is moving really fast. One min I fancy this guy who works in this store, the next min my parents are trying to introduce me to ten million guys and now all of a sudden out of the blue this guy who everybody used to have a crush on in my school days has got in touch with me.


He actually first got in touch with me last year, we exchanged numbers but nothing ever came out of it because I was so busy helping to organise my sisters wedding. So we never got to meet. I ended up losing his number, and never really contacted him via fb and at one point I went through this phase where I was deleting everybody on my fb who I dont speak to. And he was 1 of them.


Then the other week I get this email and I think what the hell? I won't be brief or a closed book like how I was last time - I won't be afraid and I will open up a bit. So then one email turned out to be us emailing throughout the week.


Last night my mum was having a discussion with me about these other guys that people have reccommended, some very nice bachelors in the area, and I'm sitting there thinking what about *****?


Basically... the guy that got in touch with me asked me if I'd like to meet for a chat sometime this week, I said how about fri evening? He said yeah 8pm dinner? I was like... thats fine.


SO now its dinner???? Is it even a date? I guess I will see how it goes on friday but cos its been so long since I have been out properly one to one with a guy I feel guilty lying to my parents where I'm going. Used to do it all the time when I was younger but now I feel as though cos I'm older, I owe them the truth kinda thing. Like my relationship with my parents has developed and it feels weird. Like I'm not a kid anymore that can lie and pretend I'm going to an after school class but really going out with friends.


The reason I have to lie is cos if I tell them the truth they are gonna start hitting me with 21 million questions about this guy and if I have any intentions in marrying him!! (My parents are from a completely different culture to what we've been brought up in) I want to take my time and get to know him on a friends level... so why do I feel so scared / nervous?


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Registered: 05-11-2004
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 11:51pm

I completely understand your situation with your parents asking a billion questions. My mother does the same thing to me. We live in the same condo building and people will tell her when they see me leave and then she calls me and acts like I'm a 13 year old sneaking out. I'm 47. It's horrible and annoying.

I lie when my mom asks me personal questions. I know that's sad but I do. I never tell her when I go out on a date or out with friends. I always say I'm going to meet my best friend for dinner, breakfast, a movie or whatever. I hate lying but I hate her annoying questions even more.

So what I'm getting at here is, in your case, like mine, I think when all else fails lying to your folks is understandable.

So....Where are you going on your dinner date Friday?????? LOL!!!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 4:00am

Hey!! Thanks for your reply, sometimes its nice to know ur not the only one!


I ended up just being honest with her (this time round!) i told her i'm meeting an old friend from high school for dinner but she shouldnt jump to any conclusions or get her little black book out to do some research. She just told me to be cool and let him do the pursuing (I was thinking... omg... MY Mum is telling me how to act lol)


I get what she means, I'm feeling dreadfully nervous, just cant shake it!


Lol @ date. So do you reckon thats what it is then? Cos im confused. I mean he is being flirty flirty with me during emails but I'm sitting there thinking 'dont u think we should meet first?!'


I guess im just skeptical about this because im worried he's gonna think im ugly and that he's jumpin the gun being all nice and everything and im going to be all dissapointed if i dont hear from him much after. its just that its been nice emailin somebody in that way!


*feeling really scared!*