I feel Guilty Part 2 - Update

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Registered: 05-06-2008
I feel Guilty Part 2 - Update
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Sun, 06-15-2008 - 9:08am

Ok so I went for dinner with that old high school guy. It went ok but there were a few silent moments, more from my end then his.


Even though I thought he was really sweet, i was still confused about whether it was a date or not. But I think it wasnt as there was no flirting, just general chit chat.


I cant remember all the conversations we had, but one of them was when he mentioned his cousins wedding next year. I joked and said you never know who you might bump into there and he was laughing along with it kinda thing.


When it came to us finishing our meal (which i couldnt even finish, i think he thought i wanted outta there asap) we had an arkward moment as i knew he was bein too polite to ask for the bill so i suggested that we get the bill and

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 2:58am

Don't be so hard on yourself.


We all get nervous, men and women both. To me it sounds like he had a good time and wants you to know that he enjoyed the evening and that you didn't do anything "wrong".


As for getting an email, I have no idea. Some people worry about the timing of things, "is it too soon to email her, will she think I'm being pushy?" I think you left things on a positive note. I would treat him like a female friend and if you don't hear from him in a few days, I'd email him again. Be casual and pleasant and see what happens from there.


Keep us posted and good luck!


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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 3:45am

Hey!


Thanks for your reply, I kept thinking to myself that maybe I left things on a negative note, not sure why!Anyway I checked my emails and had one from him this morning! So maybe its true about what they say that guys follow a 3/4 day rule!!!


I will reply and be normal. I realised the way I was the last few days, how ''attached'' I became to the idea of this person and I dating. I really need to let that go and concentrate on being friends first cos at least if we decide not to pursue anything I'll know I have a good friend.


Why is it that everytime a guy gets in touch us ladies automatically think 'relationship' before 'friendship'?