I like him, but not physically attracted

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I like him, but not physically attracted
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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 3:17pm

I just recently started talking to this guy whom I had met a few months back through his roommate when his roommate & I were hanging out/dating...whatever you want to call it.

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:02pm
Has he asked you out? If so, I say give it a chance, if you're so inclined. Try not to worry about the attraction too much and just have a good time---that could lead to attraction. However, if you're just not feeling it fairly soon, then it is likely it will never materialize, although I've heard of it happening.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 12:54pm

I agree with floridagirl - if he has asked you out, I'd accept and take the chance to see where it goes, but if you don't feel the spark, then you'll know for sure.


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Sat, 02-28-2009 - 5:58am

I agree. One date or two isn't committing to anything. I've dated guys who i had no connection with just to see if it could develop. It helps you build your preferences about what you like or don't like in a guy so that when dating in future you get better at filtering out the time-wasters or those that you know you won't be attracted to ;)

But for there to be a relationship you do need to have physical attraction, as well as at least an emotional/mental and/or spiritual connection. 3/4 ain't bad but i did have a bf last year who i was emotionally/mentally/spiritually attracted/connected with and it just didn't work out because i wasn't attracted to him physically. I gave it two months and lost my best friend because i was blind to that fact that physical attraction is important. And yes it might not be there to start with, at least for women... but i think its something that you could see developing or not and should take about 2 weeks to spark... not months.

Go on a date, nothing serious and see what happens. you'll know after the first kiss if it will work. I'm a great believer in first kisses ;)

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Mon, 03-16-2009 - 12:35am
Thank you all for your comments!