I'm confused...

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Registered: 01-03-2011
I'm confused...
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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 11:42pm

So I met this girl on Match.com and we emailed and talked over the phone a few times, then went on a date two weeks ago. I don't think it was a home run (a little awkward like any first date at times), but we laughed and I think it was definitely second date worthy. Anyway, on the way back to her place I told her I had fun, she said she did too. I walked her to her door and said that I would like to take her out again, she quickly agreed. She seemed sincere, I told her I would call her later in the week, and I gave her a hug and left.

That was lunch and I texted her later that night and just said that I had a good time and hoped that we could go out again maybe the week after Christmas. She wrote right back and said she had a good time too and she was going to be at her parent's place (out of state) during Christmas, but she would let me know if was back earlier. She said she was going away during lunch, that wasn't a surprise. I wrote back and said yeah whenever you are back in the area and wished her a Merry Christmas. She wrote back right away and said the same, "talk to you soon", and thanked me for lunch.

So, I ended up texting her the next week and asked how her Christmas was... she didn't respond. (I know that texting is not the best means of communication, but she was away and doesn't see her family much, so I didn't want to call) I waited another week (yesterday) and called her and left a message asking how her holiday went and again saying I had fun when we went out and hoped that we could go out again. I haven't heard back yet...

I'm not really sad, but just a little disappointed and confused. Like I said, she seemed totally sincere when she said she had a good time and wanted to go out again. Plus, why respond to my messages the night after date if you were planning on blowing me off later? Also, I still check my Match profile and it says that she hasn't been on there since we started talking. I know that the right thing to do now is do nothing, but I am curious if anyone has any advice.

It's only been one day and she could call back later in the week, but I don't get it. Would it be really lame to send a joking message to her later in the week if I don't hear back? i.e. "Was it something I said"?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-04-2011 - 12:08pm

I think you are getting the reverse of when a man tells a woman "I'll call you" and then he never does.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 4:51am
musiclover12 wrote:

I think you are getting the reverse of when a man tells a woman "I'll call you" and then he never does.