I'm Questioning the Relationship

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2009
I'm Questioning the Relationship
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Sun, 03-08-2009 - 11:56am

I'm causing myself unnecessary aggravation by constantly questioning the status of my relationship.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 12:16pm

Its probably a defense mechanisum that tries to keep you from being hurt.


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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:25pm

>it will show through and you may come off to him as controlling and desperate.

Absolutely not. I am not controlling, nor desperate, nor have I ever acted that way, nor is there any chance I will in the future. 40-plus years is a pretty good track record. I am not that kind of person.

>is this your inner voice telling you something is not right with him or this relationship?

The relationship is absolutely wonderful. Wonderful. There is nothing wrong. There are no red flags. There's nothing that even gives me pause.

I imagine the reason behind my fears is past heartbreak, and the fact that I've got -- not a good, but a GREAT man, whom I don't want to lose (ie be heartbroken again).

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 1:46pm

Absolutely not. I am not controlling, nor desperate, nor have I ever acted that way, nor is there any chance I will in the future. 40-plus years is a pretty good track record. I am not that kind of person.


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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 8:17pm

I understand you were saying it could "appear" to him that I was controlling or desperate. Perhaps I should've used that word in my reply.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Tue, 03-10-2009 - 9:11am

Your welcome, although I probably did not help out much.


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