Inexperience

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Registered: 03-27-2012
Inexperience
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:14am

Hi

Its been 4 years for me since my first and last relationship. Ive just meet a really great guy online through a friend of mine. I was apprahensive about the online thing, but it has been good for me as in person I am shy and find it hard to talk.

We have been speaking online now for a couple of weeks, and meet for the first time the other night. It went well.

We want all the same sorts of things out of life.

But I am scared. My last relationship didnt end so well, so not only am I scared of being hurt, but also hurting him.

I think I keep looking too far ahead, that I should live more in where we are now, and that might help, but it still scares me.

It also worries me that I dont feel the Need to see him everyday? We still talk everyday, and he wants to see me as often as he can, but I dont currently feel the same, does that mean anything??

Thanks

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 7:07am

It might be hard to do, but try to relax. It's so early on with this guy--neither of you know where it's going. He's a big boy: don't worry about hurting him (as long as you are not playing games with him).

Everyone has different needs in relationships. If he wants to be with you a lot and you don't, that may not bode well. On the other hand, he may just be rather smitten with you and naturally wants to see you a lot and get to know you. IF you don't want to see him everyday, that could just be the way you are in a relatioship, or perhaps you're not that interested in him. Only time will tell.

Please try to leave past failures in the past. It's a new day. Learn from any "mistakes" you may have made and truly try to move forward.

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Registered: 03-27-2012
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 2:12am

Thanks