It's My Birthday, I'll Cry If I Want To

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It's My Birthday, I'll Cry If I Want To
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Sun, 11-15-2009 - 11:53am

I'm putting this out there for several reasons, first because writing it down always helps. Second, it's another cautionary tale, I suppose, you know, where you feel generous and giving and at the same time, you're trying to make up your mind about the guy.


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Registered: 10-09-2008

I've come to this thread a bit late, but not too late by the last few postings. I haven’t posted here in a long time, mostly lurk on the internet dating board.


This post caught my eye because, unfortunately I’ve been in the same position. Maybe I’m naïve, but being basically an honest person, I try to treat others in an honorable way. The favor is not always returned.


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Registered: 06-01-2009

Thanks again for all the great comments. I've got to admit that I've been floating high ever since *Bob* wrote that pis*ed off email.


Since I didn't understand it, I took it to several linguistic experts. Their verdict? The guy is pis*ed off and, at the time he wrote, his pis*ed-offedness interfered with his ability to articulate his grievances. Plus, he's a lousy writer. Even my 4th graders do better. At least they

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 11-19-2009 - 11:44pm
That's EXACTLY how I feel! When it's right isn't it supposed to be sort of effortless? I mean, I know relationships are work but I hate all of this mis-communication, he-said/she-said, CRAP!
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Registered: 04-15-2006
Thu, 11-19-2009 - 11:49pm
I'm glad you've moved on from this guy. If a man likes you and is really into you, your birthday is a perfect chance for him to really show you how great he is. It's an obvious event. For him not to do something special for you and even be sarcastic about it shows that he's not interested in a real relationship with you. Rock the red dress!!
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Registered: 06-01-2009

OK, this is a wrap-up, cuz I gotta get off the Bob train. Two short comments:


My really good friend, the g.f. I can pretty much say anything to, told me she wouldn't have done what I did, that is, send Bob my story on him plus posts. (And believe me, I didn't send him all the posts, either.)


I didn't plan to do it,

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Registered: 03-26-2003

Wow, I'm just catching up after a busy week--sorry you had this experience around your birthday!

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Registered: 12-27-2001

Yes, thanks, Sheri, and I missed you on those threads, so I'm glad you piped up.

I think I sorta had to do it. The fact that not one single person felt he was a man of honor says something there. I was fully prepared for responses that stated: you're selfish, can't you see the guy is sick? Not one. And I think I told the tale rather dispassionately, described the behavior and didn't trod on the man.

It's done and that's that.

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