It's True, I'm Not A Game Player

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Registered: 12-19-2006
It's True, I'm Not A Game Player
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Sat, 04-09-2011 - 4:29pm

I'm tired of having to "play by the rules" and doing the "waiting game".

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 5:29pm

I don't know that I would really call this a game.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2006
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 7:50pm
yea, and its only been a week not like a month or anything like that. can't jump the gun
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Registered: 09-12-2005
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 10:40pm

But maybe it's just too early for him to be so attached that he'd need to talk to you so often. Personally, I'm not someone who likes talking by phone and I think it would take me some time before I feel the need to hear often from the guy. My ex didn't like talking by phone either, we were in a long-distance relationship and would talk maybe 2-3 times per wee and even then, he seemed to find it often and was saying that it was work :).

If I were you, I would just go with the flow and start meeting other guys, so that I'm less concentrated on him. I don't know but if you need lots of attention, maybe a guy who's independent and works a lot might not be a good match for you ?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-09-2011 - 11:59pm

I think it's because it's a new situation and you're not entirely sure where you stand that it makes it seem like a week is a long time.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 12:25am
musiclover12 wrote:

I don't know that I would really call this a game.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2006

Yea,

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 6:24pm
I am the kind of person who is really not happy unless i hear from the person i am dating every day, and i also like commitment to happen pretty quickly. All my past long term relationships happened this way, and at first i thought that that had something to do with it, but now i don't think that's true. I have had relationships move at a slower pace since then and they didn't work out either. When I met my boyfriend things went quickly again, but this time it's working out amazingly, and i'm very happy. I don't think it's important how fast the relationship progresses, what matters is that you are compatible. And for me, someone who is happy enough with very limited contact just isn't compatible with me anyway. It drove me nuts and not in a good way.

If you want someone who talks to you and wants to see you more, don't be afraid to hold out for that. What is right for some people isn't always right for everyone.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2006
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 6:25pm
Sorry, meant to say i thought that had something to do with why my past relationships ended.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 04-10-2011 - 9:35pm

Well frankly, now, I just don't care.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 12:17pm

He just does not seem to be showing the signs that he is really into you. I think you are doing the right thing by opening up your prospects to other guys and not waiting on him.

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