Just need an opinion.

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Just need an opinion.
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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 1:55pm

I've been on the divorce boards before because seven months ago my marriage ended.

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 4:22pm

I think you did just fine. Dating isn't any easier when you're older, either. :)

However, I would not have told him about the birthday club--it's like you are asking him out and I think it should be the other way around, especially since he's so "busy." But no biggie. Just let him make the next move. Don't call or text him--let him contact next.

He does sound interested, I would have interpreted it the same way. But really, in my book, if a guy isn't asking you out (and that doesn't have to be a big fancy dinner) then I assume he's not all that interested. Many people use the "busy" excuse, and sometimes it really is true, but when I hear that, I assume "not interested," and am just surprised when they call.

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Mon, 11-15-2010 - 6:58pm

Well I was really casual with how I said it.

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Tue, 11-16-2010 - 11:45am

I agree, if he is really interested he will call. You should definitely leave it up to him to make the next move, if any.

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Wed, 11-17-2010 - 4:52pm

There is a possibility that he already has a girlfriend. Some guys aren't ready for monogamy, so they get tempted when they see a pretty woman, etc. He gave the excuse of the football season, and now a family weekend. If he doesn't ask you out within 2 weeks, after that if he texts again, explain that you are not into long term texting friendships, and are looking for someone to actively date. You set the rules, don't wait around for someone to toy with you. If someone doesn't meet your expectations, they are not compatible with you. You are the treasure and must find someone who is worthy of you. If they don't step up to the plate, they can eat dust. LOL Take care.

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Wed, 11-17-2010 - 6:46pm
Haha! I love it! :)

I talked to him today and we're tentatively making plans for this weekend. If he backs out or doesn't solidify soon I'm not even trying anymore. I understand he's a busy man but if you want time, you make time, ya know?

We know mutual people so I'm positive he's not in a committed relationship but that doesn't mean there's not someone else he's sort of talking to so who knows.
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:19am
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