A little baffled...

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Registered: 11-20-2004
A little baffled...
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 8:41pm

Hey all-

Just wanted some insight..

I dated this guy in January for about a month and brought up the whole "are we just hanging out or are we dating" -stupid i know-and told him if we stopped going out that I am usually not friends with someone. Well we stopped talking for a bit....until a few weeks ago. I saw him on my messenger and asked if he wanted to go play pool with me. I didn't have any expectations but was wanting to see him. We had a great time and he asked me to hang out the next week. After that night he asked if he could have another chance at things. I told him that we could keep hanging out and see where it goes (even though i was excited and really liked him and want more). That same week he asked me to come out to a bar that he was at with his family. We ended up playing pool again and then actually slept together for the first time. The sex was okay but he didn't "perform" after awhile--I think he drank too much and said he has issues when he wears a condom. Anyways--he kinda wanted me to stay over but he had to work the next morning so I left around 4am. We talked the next day briefly and he said he had a great time. But ever since that he hasn't really communicated with me much. I have gotten a text every few days. My question-if he wants another chance why isn't he acting like it?

Thanks for any input :)

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 8:56pm
Is it possible maybe he got signals from you that you were turned off by what happened when you had sex? You'd be surprised how sensitive guys can be about stuff like that! I'd say you reach out to him, and show him you're excited to see him again that way if it's a
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 9:20am

It sounds like for whatever reason he has changed his mind, or he is embarrassed because he could not "perform" and its taking him time to get over it.


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