Long-time friend wants to date exclusively
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|Mon, 08-06-2012 - 12:57am|
I've been friends with J for 17 years. Lately, I noticed he calls and comes around more often than ever. I want to mention that he knows all the details of my dating life. I've always known that he sorta has a thing for me, but he's never acted on on...and years ago, I had a major crush on him, but we never connected...I got over it, and moved on with life. Anyway, recently we were alone together at my house and things started happening. We ended up sleeping together! He professed his love to me during the act...and then again the next day. He made a comment that now I have a decision to make. I know he means that now I must decide if I want to be in a relationship with him or continue seeing S. S is not a serious relationship. It is sexual, but more importantly, he is a dear friend. I don't want to end my friendship with S at all, but our relationship will never be more than it is...and we are both ok with the situation. I don't know what to do! Part of me wants to give J a try. I've been lonely and have been longing to have a loving companion, but on the other hand, I don't want to mess up my friendship with J by getting romantically involved...and also don't want to ruin things with S. I know J is waiting by to see what's going to happen with S since J and I recently crossed the bedroom line. I'm actually going out wth S in 2 days--which we had planned a few days before all this happened. Confused!