Man who uses nappies has question

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Registered: 11-19-2009
Man who uses nappies has question
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Thu, 11-19-2009 - 6:04am

This is a bit of an odd post to make, so I guess it must be very odd for anyone to read. But I’m doing it to try to overcome a fear that is looking like it is going to turn into a phobia. My situation is that I wear fitted incontinence slips 24/7, which along with the plastic pants that go with them, means that to all intents and purposes I’m living my life in adult nappies (diapers). The trouble is that whilst I am fine at home, it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to go out for the fear of someone noticing. I do have a job, so am forced to keep confronting this, and I think that is what is basically saving me becoming a hermit, but when I came across this site, I thought it might be an opportunity to anonymously ask people—and in particular this is directed towards women, since it is their opinion that causes most of my fear—what reaction they think they might have if they were to notice.


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Registered: 12-27-2001
Fri, 11-20-2009 - 10:47pm

I have to say that I don't think this is the proper posting spot for your very particular question. It sounds like more of a shrink/therapist thing. It wouldn't even be appropriate for me to comment on whether or not a man with nappies would freak me out.

Frankly, I have enough challenges contending with men who seem to fit the regular, pedestrian mold and can hardly contemplate anything more extreme. Sorry about that.

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Registered: 09-02-2006
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:26pm
What are nappies?
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Registered: 11-19-2009
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 6:18am

Thanks for your question.


Basically an adult diaper. I normally describe them as an ‘incontinence slip’ as that sounds more medical, but I am putting in the language of how people not familiar with that world would probably see this stuff in order to get a more everyday response – sadly, like the lady above you.

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 8:20pm
I think this is a perfectly acceptable way to test how people perceive you. If the guy I like told me he uses adult diapers, I really can't picture myself changing my feelings for him. I definitely wouldn't laugh at someone if I noticed. But there are probably plenty of people it would be a deal breaker for. It would help you to see a therapist and/or read about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy because it would be a shame for you to spend your life alone because of this fear.
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