Into me still or no longer?

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Into me still or no longer?
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Sat, 12-20-2008 - 1:33am

Hi everyone,

For the past few weeks or so I've been chatting with someone from an online dating service We finally went on our first "date" that went great. After coffee we did go back to his apartment (I know...I know) to talk more and ended up kissing some. No more than that though, and when it did start to get a bit heated I pulled back and he did as well.

About a week later he asked me out again - yippee! We had a great time at dinner and he even mentioned going somewhere we both wanted to in a month or so. Good, right?

After dinner we went back to his apartment and ... nothing! :( We talked a lot (great conversations) and watched a little TV. After a few hours when I felt the conversation slowing (I also did not want to wear out my welcome) I mentioned that I guessed I should get going. The first time I said this he did not appear to hear me, brought up a different topic and I hung out for another hour. But I knew he also had to get up kind of early to travel, so I thought I should leave. Just to be clear, I was fine staying longer, I really enjoyed spending time with him, but I could not tell if he was ready for me to go (it's confusing when you are at someone else's place). The 2nd time he did get up, we talked standing for a bit more than he walked me out He gave me a hug and that was it.

I was kind of disappointed and am wondering if he has already lost interest in me? Or if perhaps he felt me moved too fast last time and pulled back? He also said he was a bit self-conscious about some statements he had made that evening, could that have been it? Or am I just fooling myself?

Thanks for your input.
D

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Sat, 12-20-2008 - 8:24pm
How long has it been since your most recent date?
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Sat, 12-20-2008 - 9:16pm

Hi,

Thanks for responding. Our first date was about a week and a half ago, our most recent date was just last night. :) A brief update, he called me today on the way to visit his family. During this conversation he mentioned that he would like to come up to visit in my area sometime (the last 2 dates have been near his place, which is also close to my job). So that is a good thing right? :) I guess I could look at it that even if he has decided to pull back on the physical he enjoys my company too and at least I have a friend in him. But I am anxious to hear your thoughts.

Thank you!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-20-2008 - 9:36pm

Oh, heck, if he's already called you and you just went out last night, he's still interested.

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sun, 12-21-2008 - 4:28pm

Thank you for the email.