Men seem to want to date younger women??
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Men seem to want to date younger women??
| Wed, 09-24-2008 - 4:34pm |
I am newly divorced and dating again at 42. My issue is that all the guys I meet don't want to date 40 somethings. So

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You think it is bad now just wait until you are in your 60's.
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I find older guys are kind of stodgy. Amen to that sister.
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I think meeting men in person is the way to do it. I think men on the dating sites are looking for a fantasy. (I also think half the people on those sites use fake pics anyway! ) So for now I will just concentrate on me.
A few years ago I belonged to a dating site (it was free then).
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I haven't really found it's a problem--I wouldn't want to date the guys who arbitrarily judge me based on my age anyway, and I'm certainly not going to stoop to lying to attract those guys, KWIM?
In recent years, I've dated men from early 30s to mid-50s (I just turned 50)--the only reason a good guy would want to date someone younger is because he wants to have kids.
The guy you were dating -- does he want kids?
I didn't really think about the having children part and I agree that's a legitimate reason for wanting to date a woman who is still in childbearing age but sometimes I think that it's a fantasy world also. Like when you see these guys who say they only want a woman who is thin & beautiful and they aren't so great looking themselves. I guess if we are advertising on the internet, we can ask for anything we want. I think that's the problem w/ the internet dating, that since you are really only getting to know people superficially, you are looking for certain "characteristics". I have to say that when I met my 2nd DH, which was in person at a group meeting, my first thought was "I could never date someone like him," then gradually I got to know him. At first I was turned off cause at that time, his hair & beard were longer. I didn't even know about his tattoos then. lol I just thought he wasn't my "type" whatever that was.
I think it's interesting that you mentioned "networking" which most people only think of regarding a job search. I know that's the old way to meet people, before the internet existed, was to meet "a friend of a friend" or even have your friends set you up on blind dates. I do have to say that it seems that none of my friends or family ever knew anyone single.
Well, and after a certain age the want-to-have-a-family thing doesn't make sense for anyone any more.
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