Moving On, Dating Again, Help!!

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Registered: 03-19-2004
Moving On, Dating Again, Help!!
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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 12:48am
It's been two years since I have been on a date and I am not sure what to do because a man who works across the street from me gave me his business card today, told me to email him to talk and he can give me a tour of his office building (it's not his business, he works for the City and the building is fancy). I have seen him countless time while sitting outside having lunch, noticed he would stare at me but never talked to me, and finally last week he came up to talk to a friend of mine while we were having lunch. I would not mind getting to know him, don't want to sound anxious, and at the same time I don't know what to write on the email. For the longest time due to my breakup I did not want to date anyone because of my last relationship. I had to break up with my ex-boyfriend because he would drink a lot, not because I did not love him. Also, I think I was hoping he would stop drinking and thinking what if's. Unfortunately he passed recently and unexpectly which does away with the hope and allows me to completely move on without thinking about the what ifs. I want to date and meet someone and know that I need to give it a try, trying is the only way I will find if something will develop or not. Can you all please help me, I don't know what to write in the email.

Anna


Anna

 

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 8:28am

its good to hear you are ready to start dating again.


This is what I would put in the email.


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Registered: 03-19-2004
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 1:14am
Hi Yankee-n-sc, Thanks for your advice. Deep down inside I did want to contact him but felt sort of afraid as though I was pursuing him. I know I was not pursuing him because he initiated the contact by giving me his business card, wanting to take me on a tour at our City Hall, and told me to email him anytime. I had a stomach ache most of the day from being nervous asking myself would I email him today or wait till next week. I thought if I did not email him today he may take it as though I was not interested and didn't want him to think that. Well I did email him around 2:30 today telling him that I would like to go on a tour and to contact me via my cell or personal email address because I did not like using my work email address for personal business. Especially when it comes to trying to date someone, as you all may know our employers monitor everything on our computers and really dont want someone seeing an email on trying to set up a date. He emailed me back right a way stating he understood and would call me. Well he called right a way and asked me to come over this afternoon during my break. I was not able to go at 3:30 because I get off at 4:00 pm and then he asked me to come by after work. I went by his office after work, he gave me a Tour of the City Hall, I had fun and enjoyed talking to him, he introduced me to his co-workers, and walked me through Council Members' offices. After the tour he walked me downstairs, shook my hand, and said he wanted to have lunch with me next week, I said yes and for him to give me a call. When I got home from work there was an email on my computer thanking me for going on the tour and what my schedule is like next week to have lunch with him, and that he can work something out with his schedule to go to lunch at the same time I go. He seems like a nice respectful man and I am looking forward to having lunch with him and getting to know him. I will keep you posted. Thanks again for your advice and support.

Anna


Anna

 

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 10:06am

Woohoo, Im happy for you.


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