Mr Possibilities Pops Up Again

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Mr Possibilities Pops Up Again
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Wed, 04-22-2009 - 3:43pm

So after I had shrugged off

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 4:58pm

I understand how you feel. I would be right where you are on all this if it happened to me. Having said that, relationships aren't rigid. The nature of relationships and love is very fluid, and sometimes you have to go on faith when you look at the big picture. This is what I would do now considering the authentic 3 points he'd have

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Wed, 04-22-2009 - 7:03pm

Sweet Potatoes works for me.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 11:28pm

Oh geez, girlfriend, I feel your pain. I just got back from a "date" with mr. "what the heck is this". Fifth date, got just a hug good-bye. But while he was waiting for me to show up, (I got caught in a horrible traffic jam), he stood in a parking spot right outside the front door so that I wouldn't have to park on the street. I'm so confused!!! No kiss, no compliments on how I look...

And yet, I got three solid hours of GREAT conversation/joking. Yeah, I could chalk it up to a new "friend". It is nice to have another adult to talk to and bounce child rearing concerns off of (since my kids dad is totally uninvolved). On the other hand, I want someone to be crazy about me.

I left my last relationship with a guy who would always tell me when he thought I looked good, had great chemistry with, but he wouldn't commit. Part of me misses the compliments and chemistry still. I know he would "take me back" in a heartbeat, but I really want the whole package...the compliments, the chemistry AND the friendship.

I know Mr.WTHIT is in the middle of selling his house and moving/buying a new one. Lots of work, stuff to think about. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, too, but sometimes I wonder when it is going to be MY turn?

Sometimes this all seems like more work than it is worth.

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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 9:10am

Hi again dabela.


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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 12:24pm

I agree with your plan, Dabela. Think it's a wise decision for you to wait until he mentions of asking you out for another date, then you can mention what is acceptable for you and what is not..

Just not a fan of telling him upfront that you are not happy about the last time he planned but no follow-up thing. It might makes him think that you are uptight about things and guys hate that.

Just be light and attentive first for now. Make him happy and want to see you again... after that, you can tell him in a non-pressure way what you expect from him.

Moonglow 05
Moonglow 05
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Thu, 04-23-2009 - 1:28pm

"Mr Potato Head" ...I giggled out loud! Yep, indeed.


"If I respond to him right now with a "complaint" about last week, it may discourage him from continuing the friendship."


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Registered: 03-19-2009
Thu, 04-23-2009 - 4:16pm

It sometimes seems a lot of trouble indeed.

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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 4:19pm

Bev,

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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 4:22pm

Hi Moon-- Thanks for your response. I think we are looking at this the same way. I am certainly not going to let this (or any other guy) treat me shabbily twice, but I don't think it is urgent to set forth my expectations.

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Thu, 04-23-2009 - 4:32pm

"And who is

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