OK, I get it now--your guy has morphed into Mr. P. Head and it suits him fine.
I gotta comment here, having gone through this c%$#p for a year and a half with Toxic Man. I now call him Toxic Rides Again. He's your basic Blow Torch Guy who backs off when there's interest from me. Then he comes back to the ole watering hole with flattery and the promise to be a friend.
As you say:
"I don't know about you, but I have different standards for real friends and people who are just friendly acquaintances. The latter group serves to pass time and may be useful sometimes. That's how I see him now. "
Well, I can't put the emotional energy into figuring all this stuff out anymore. His behavior indicates Toxic is NOT a friend, nor is he a friendly acquaintance. I don't treat people--men/women/or even dogs this way.
Guys like this behave this way out of selfishness. And ego enhancement.
"If he wants more, he is going to have to earn it. Believe me, if he indicates that he wants to go on a date (if he even starts flirting with me in e-mail again) I will tell him what I expect and why I won't take any less."
I had all this--flirting in email, in text message, on the phone. It all adds up to what I call Tweetie Bird. Tweet, tweet, tweet.
Sings a great song. No actions. He won't change. This is the real man.
I can't trust my Mr. Potato Head. And make no excuses for a man. You'll always be waiting for the next spate of Bad Behavior. He's shown himself right at the beginning. I don't think it gets any better as time rolls onward.
Honestly, "straightening him out" won't work. He's not a man of his word.
OK. Whatever you decide to do, good luck and be good to yourself. I'm having a tough time today and keep on saying that, am thinking of ways to be kind and positive here, so I'm sharing that. Also, the NO CONTACT thing works very well for me. (And it's not my Mr. Potato Head that's bothering me now--it's other stuff in Life.)
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Your rationale makes perfect sense! :)
OK, I get it now--your guy has morphed into Mr. P. Head and it suits him fine.
I gotta comment here, having gone through this c%$#p for a year and a half with Toxic Man. I now call him Toxic Rides Again. He's your basic Blow Torch Guy who backs off when there's interest from me. Then he comes back to the ole watering hole with flattery and the promise to be a friend.
As you say:
"I don't know about you, but I have different standards for real friends and people who are just friendly acquaintances. The latter group serves to pass time and may be useful sometimes. That's how I see him now. "
Well, I can't put the emotional energy into figuring all this stuff out anymore. His behavior indicates Toxic is NOT a friend, nor is he a friendly acquaintance. I don't treat people--men/women/or even dogs this way.
Guys like this behave this way out of selfishness. And ego enhancement.
"If he wants more, he is going to have to earn it. Believe me, if he indicates that he wants to go on a date (if he even starts flirting with me in e-mail again) I will tell him what I expect and why I won't take any less."
I had all this--flirting in email, in text message, on the phone. It all adds up to what I call Tweetie Bird. Tweet, tweet, tweet.
Sings a great song. No actions. He won't change. This is the real man.
I can't trust my Mr. Potato Head. And make no excuses for a man. You'll always be waiting for the next spate of Bad Behavior. He's shown himself right at the beginning. I don't think it gets any better as time rolls onward.
Honestly, "straightening him out" won't work. He's not a man of his word.
OK. Whatever you decide to do, good luck and be good to yourself. I'm having a tough time today and keep on saying that, am thinking of ways to be kind and positive here, so I'm sharing that. Also, the NO CONTACT thing works very well for me. (And it's not my Mr. Potato Head that's bothering me now--it's other stuff in Life.)
Whew.
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