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New to dating and over 40
| Mon, 05-17-2010 - 9:32am |
I am 46 years old and met a guy at my gym about 6 weeks ago. I did not want to go out with him at first but he pursued me pretty relentlessly and I agreed to meet him for dinner one day after the gym.

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Cate2010
Well, from the male point of view "we" are pretty oblivious to hints, no matter how blatantly obvious they are to women, we just hear and understand
This guy clearly needs to know exactly what you want and what is bothering you. If you see him at the gym, tell him that you're not a 'texter' and you'd prefer to go out 'in real life' so to speak. If he doesn't ask you out after that, then I'd not bother with him. There are plenty of guys out there that really want to date, not text. Don't settle for Text guy. You're worth dating!
PS: For the record, I've had the same thing happen to me, all the guy wanted to do was chat. I stopped responding, and he 'went away'. :)
Channel Issac Asimov"s The Naked Sun, I robot. Remember Demolition man? The sex scene?
but the tale was disconnedcted from face to face contact. Is that what we are moving toward?
Is he shy? If he's really shy or afraid of getting into a relationship he could just be stalling. At this age he should know what he wants and go after it, regardless of how he feels. There's no way of knowing what he's after except by talking to him and then seeing how he reacts afterward. If he keeps up with just texting, or you start dating and he still acts elusive and hard to get to know, I'd figure he's running from something and good chance he won't change.
I agree. Tell him the truth. Texting is a waste of time unless you're in a relationship.
And NEVER ever settle for someone because you think there're not enough men out there! It's ok to settle for someone imperfect because that just makes sense. No other kind of settling makes sense, though.
Keep in mind that if this is the way he behaves in the beginning, what have you got to look forward to later on? Like in three (lousy) weeks?
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