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| Fri, 12-05-2008 - 4:51pm |
Hi everybody
I have recently rejoined the dating scene after a four year long term relationship. My ex and I broke up about a month ago, and a week later a friend of mine seen him with some young girl (After some research i found out who she is in that she is not legal age in most places), so every since then we had a big blow out and have not spoken since... I have been making progress in getting over this, though it is hard, which leads me to my next point.
I am going into my last semester of school and I started to develop a thing for this guy in my class... we hang out with different groups of friend but occasionally all hang out. Now I should mention that this guy is drop dead gorgeous and has a whole lot going for him... he can pretty much get whom ever he wants. I have recently added to msn and we have been talking a lot... though I am getting mized signals. On msn we talk for hours and recently we have been learning more about each other and occasionally flirt online. Now when it comes to in person... we dont talk much and our conversations are not very personal (when we see each other we are always with our friends), though in class we are constantly meeting each others' gaze and i have caught him looking at me out of the corner of my eye on a few occasions. My friends say they think he likes me and I should go for it... like ask him out for coffee or something. There are a few problems with that:
1. I don't want to ask him to coffee or anything until i am 100% he likes me
2. I have never asked out a guy before... I always thought if the guy likes a girl, the girl should wait for him to ask her
He is kind of hard to read and I can't really tell whats going on in his head. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!

Hi and Welcome to the board!
Let me ask you a question? If you knew, absolutely for sure, that this guy only wanted to be friends would you still want to be friends with him? If the answer is yes, then be all means ask him to have coffee BUT think of him only as potential friend material until he asks you out on a real date.
I think a lot of people make that "All or Nothing" mistake. They want so badly to date that they forget just how wonderful being friends with someone can be. If that person is right for you a friendship will turn into a relationship in time. And if they aren't meant for you as a potential