no kiss on 2nd date

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Registered: 08-09-2010
no kiss on 2nd date
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Sun, 11-11-2012 - 8:03pm

On our first date we discovered that we both like to hike and go for walks on trails.  I told him about one trail near my apt. so at the end of the date he said maybe we can meet there next time.  He called me 3 days later so we met at the trail this past weekend.  He wanted to stop for some drinks half way through so by the time we got back to where he parked his car, I thought maybe he'd like to use the bathroom before he drives home, which is a half hour drive.  I invited him up to my apartment so after he came out of the bathroom he sat down on the couch. We talked for an hour - and he never tried to kiss me.... not even at the door when he left. He kissed me on the cheek.... but he did say he wants to have dinner next... but still no kiss and it was the 2nd date.... was I being too forward to ask him up to my apt.?  I really thought he needed to use the bathroom since I did....  well a kiss on the cheek and mention of a 3rd date is better than nothing.  Thanks.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 1:51am

I don't think you were being too forward by inviting him in. He wasn't shocked and seemed happy enough to come up. I am surprised he didn't try anything with you. Normally, an invitation into a woman's apartment means she is interested in at least some degree of making out. If he didn't act on this, there's a good chance he isn't all that into you. The only other factors that would slow him down are shyness and traditional religious beliefs. If neither of these are applicable to him, write him off.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 4:03pm

I wouldn't read too much into it. Perhaps a hiking date during the day isn't very romantic. I see nothing wrong with inviting him into your apartment, and I don't think that has to mean "let's get physical,"  especially during the day. But how was he acting otherwise? Like friends? Or did he flirt with you? Did you meet him on a dating site? If you did, I think it can be hard to get to know someone that way, so I see nothing wrong with taking things slow, although I don't consider what has transpired so far as "slow."

Your dinner date will be more telling I think. I would think you'd have flirty conversation during dinner and that he would at least kiss you goodnight. 

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Registered: 08-09-2010
Mon, 11-12-2012 - 6:39pm

thanks everyone