No more dinner and a movie!

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Registered: 03-13-2013
No more dinner and a movie!
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 2:17pm

I need ideas for first dates other than the usual, "dinner and a movie". I'm not a huge movie buff to begin with so once you've been on a couple dates and seen all the decent new releases, the pickings gets REALLY slim. What have you all done for first dates other than "dinner & a movie" ?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 4:47pm

 Coffee!  I hate going to a movie with someone.  I don't like "girly" movies and prefer blood and mecha or action.  But I am a deductive reasoner and it is so annoying to be with someone you have to explain the movie to.    I rather play pool or a board game as it is usually easier.  Also It depends on your endgame. 


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 9:15pm

Look around at the activities where you live.  I live near a big city & in the summer there is so much to do--a lot of outdoor concerts, festivals, etc.  IF the weather is nice you could walk in the park or go to the beach.  You could go to a baseball game if the girl likes sports (minor league games are cheap so you could leave early if it gets boring).  Of course I like dancing so I'd go for that too but don't go to a club that's so loud that you have to yell to talk.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Thu, 07-18-2013 - 11:35am

Personally I don't think a movie is good for first dates. The idea is trying to ascertain if this person is someone you are compatible with. I think that is best accomplished my talking, face to face. Find out if you enjoy each other's company. Staring at a screen does not tell you much about the other person.

I'd say coffee first. That way you can talk and see if sparks fly. You are also not committed to a time slot. You ca neasily excuse yourself from coffee date at just about any point, if things are not going well.

Movies are fine once you start into the subsequent dates.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 09-15-2013 - 10:19am

With internet dating, particularly since there were so many dead ends, I would just meet a woman for a beverage the first time. I wouldn't want to invest more time or money. Otherwise, I have to admit I wasn't so creative with my dates. My suggestion-- if you meet a guy in person(not online), think about what you have in common and pick an idea accordingly. For instance, if you both love golf or shopping for antiques, incorporate that into your first date.

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Registered: 09-11-2013
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 9:55pm
Coffee is a big hit right now. A walk along the beach or in a park are also nice. Find out what she likes - for instance, I enjoy golf and have gone to the driving range and practice green in the past. Sporting events can be fun too but try to plan for a day event so she can wear something cute :)