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This One Got Away
| Mon, 02-15-2010 - 6:58pm |
I just this minute hung up on a guy, very first phone conversation ever with him. Then I blocked him.
I've never done this before.
Well, I actually said: "I've had enough Jack. Goodbye."
Two minutes into our convo, he began asking me a series of questions designed to show me he was not *into* paying for dinner dates. Here's the breakdown: he


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Oh, I'm sorry. And yes, you did handle it well.
What I do if I'm on a call that is a waste of my time and the guy is going on and on
I don't feel like a guy should always pay on the first date. 90% of the time they do, and if they don't it's because either I asked them out and thus I feel I should pay, or we go two places and he pays for one and I pay for one. I do not have a problem with them insisting on paying if they want to, but it really doesn't sway my opinion of them either way. I pretty much always offer to pay my half unless he expresses before hand that he intends to pay.
But yeah. I'd have hung up on that guy too. He sound's like a total tool.
I think you handled it quite nicely. If you had just hung up in mid-sentence, then he might, in his narcissistic bubble, really think that the call was accidentally disconnected.
It just makes me wonder: why do guys like this even date? They have so many complaints about women and everything else. And yeah, starting out discussing who's going to pay is just the height of tacky.
The only surprise to me is how he found three women who went out with him 3 or 4 times. Perhaps they were just really hungry and needed a meal...
Wow, yes, that is simple and direct.
As I talked to this guy, I imagined a few other ways to get off the phone, say someone at the door, or an imaginary appointment, on and on.
I think I'd get off quicker next time, politeness in the garbage.
Oh, he messaged me again, two short ones this morning from another source. "Don't you love me any more?"
I'll ignore.
I figure he's got to prove to himself that he can get to me even if I block him. It's a game.
How very unappealing he is.
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The paying thing?
I don't disagree with you. My point was the guy who launches into that particular subject within the first two minutes of the FIRST phone convo is clueless and insensitive.
When is the best foot actually going forward?
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What an odd way to start a conversation..who pays?
I'm a teacher, too...I love the guys who tell you you have it easy with all those vacations. Often, I find those guys are unemployed.
I've only hung up and blocked a guy once. He seemed nice in his profile, gave good phone, we met for a date, he was great fun, though I noticed he was getting a little 'handsy'. I went home, and he called me an hour or so later basically demanding phone sex!
I hung up on him, he called back and was completely befuddled as to what he did wrong, then apologized...then started up again!
Hang up! Block!
Some guys go right into the category "Now I KNOW why you're divorced!"
I laughed out loud here:
"Perhaps they were just really hungry and needed a meal..."
I have a good friend who's said, upon the occasion of a bland, unsuccessful or boring first meet, "Well, at least I got a nice dinner."
I would imagine that the price for dinner with this guy would be much more than the actual cost.
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"I don't disagree with you. My point was the guy who launches into that particular subject within the first two minutes of the FIRST phone convo is clueless and insensitive."
Oh completely. If a guy says he'd like to treat me to lunch/dinner/coffee/drinks/miniature golf/a drag show then I know he intends to pay. Or I may tell him that I can't go out till next week because I'm pretty short on cash (and I will never just assume he's paying unless he says otherwise), and he may offer to pick it up. Otherwise I dislike having that conversation before even meeting.
I don't even like when a guy feels the need to tell me that he always pays on the first date because he was raised to be a gentleman and blah blah blah. I don't go for faux chivalry, and I've found the guys who truly are gentlemen just do it and don't feel the need to tell me they will ahead of time. The former make me feel uncomfortable and objectified. The latter just make me feel appreciated, and don't mind if I hold the door for them sometimes.
Wow, your guy you blocked was a clear case of Yucko.
I thought that *Jack* had a series of diatribes and no one to aim them at--it was a form of verbal abuse. That is, insensitivity to the person (me) at the other end of the phone.
Or socially inept.
Don't you sometimes think to yourself, especially for those of us in the cold weather places: Whew. Let me get under the covers and open my book. Bliss, wonderful uncomplicated bliss...
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