One night stand or something more?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2009
One night stand or something more?
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 5:40am

Hello everyone! I posted this on other forums and just wanted to get as much feedback as possible from different sources.

Hello. I am 26 years old and I need some advice.
I have a guy who I have been forming a great friendship with. I was not out looking for romance or a relationship. We get along great and have lots of fun together and we are very much alike. In some ways, it is almost scary in how much alike we are.
Well, this last weekend we took a day trip together and than went back to his place for TV and some drinks. We got feeling good but not out of control drunk and things led to the bedroom. 'Adult time' happened of course and then again the next morning when we slept it off. The entire time it seemed very attentive and 'close' rather than the crazed rushed just need to get off with a willing body experience.
I will admit I find him attractive and the type of man I would want to form a relationship with, but I never made a move because I had thought I thought I was not his type appearance-wise. I had assumed he is into tall statuesque model looking women while I am short, heavier and maybe on a good day a 6-7 in the looks department.
We did not talk about what just happened before I went home the next day, but I want to bring it up to him. I pretty much want to know if we are moving into something more romantic rather than friendly or if it was a one night of passion or if we are moving into a casual 'friends with benefits' relationship.

How do I approach the subject?

When should I approach the subject? (We are both pretty independent people and have not formed a super close friendship, so I would feel weird calling the next day thinking it would make me seem 'needy.'Especially since we went out together Wednesday night and Friday night and then had out day trip Saturday. Seems like a lot of time spent in one week to be calling so soon.)

Should I just wait for him to call me and bring up the subject?

Or...should I just forget about it and act like nothing happened and continue how we have been?

EDIT: Now that I think more on it, I am not sure if we were 'dating' or what...because he would insist and not mind paying for us going out to the movies, dinner, etc. He was also always trying to go or do things I wanted to do when we went out to ensure I was having fun. He also usually made comments of future plans on where he would like to go with me in the future. Was I maybe missing signals of him showing interest?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 9:11am
Anyone?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 12:56pm

If it were me I would not bring up the subject.


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