A problem with men... I think

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Registered: 02-07-2009
A problem with men... I think
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Sat, 02-07-2009 - 10:22am
Well, it turns out I have a tiny little problem when it comes to men.

When I like a man and I find out that he likes me back; I no longer like him. At all. Almost instant repulsion.
And no. It's not just me "liking the chase" because there is no chase. The guy never gets to know that I was interested in him.

But this is not THE problem, well it is... but there's a more important one coming. THE problem now
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Registered: 12-02-2007
Sun, 02-08-2009 - 4:44am
Hi there.. Actually I could relate to your problem. I never chased any man but my interest fades away whenever I find out the guy I like does like me too. Until I realized its the mystery and the thrill of knowing that the guy can resist me ignites my interest to the guy.. I always end up disappointed whenever the guy starts flirting with me. I feel like he just turned into a loser and I apparently lose my interest and jump to another guy.. I suggest you widen your options and take your time to get to know someone. Sometimes the one we don't feel like dating at first turns out to be a wonderful man once you get to know him well.. That's what I did. And it worked.
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 10:57am

I have had this happen to me too, especially when I was much younger, teens, 20's but it still happens to me occasionally.


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Registered: 12-03-2006
Sun, 02-15-2009 - 3:22pm

Hi, a little pop psychoanalysis here. I haven't had your problem. Not to say I'm healthy but at least that is not my issue, I have others. What often happens to me is I see someone who look like someone I might want to get to know.