Questions for the ladies

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Questions for the ladies
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 7:52pm

I’ve been out of the dating scene for almost thirty years. Things happen that I don’t understand. On more than one occasion when out clubbing, I’ve had women come up to me as they are leaving the club to tell me “You’re a Great Guy/Man”.

How should I respond?

Should I just accept it as a compliment and leave it alone?
(This is what I’ve been doing.)


Should I follow the lady outside and try to make a date?
If I follow her outside will I appear creepy?

If she’s interested in me how come I never see her again? Is she avoiding me because she was so forward and I didn’t respond the way she expected?

Am I messing up here?


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Registered: 01-05-2004
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 3:39pm
I think I'd just accept the compliment. I'm not a club hopper though so I don't have anything else to help! Sorry!

- J. Darling

Singe, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 12:09am
Why not immediately say, "hey, you seem pretty great yourself, would you like to meet up sometime?"

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 3:59pm

Guy/Man? Is that all anyone of these gals can say to you? Give them a side swipe look and ignore them.
Obviously you are somewhat friendly and probably know how to give a devilish look. Why don't they come over and say hi and offer you a piece of pizza?
Other than that it's all rattlesnake stew.

Best of luck

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Registered: 05-05-2006
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 12:54am

Well, in my opinion, if she had the ovaries to come up to you and tell you that is because she is obviously interested. Now, I am not going to tell you what to do, cause I suck at this dating stuff, but if I had the courage to talk to a man (period =D) and then walked away, I would probably like him to come after me and throw a line like… “so… where are we going?”... or maybe, “is that good or bad?”... or maybe even “can I take you out sometime?”... or even better “your not so bad yourself”… jajajaja… I told you I sucked, but at least I tried. I guess you will have to find your pick up line, and make it your own conquest move…

Good luck =D