Re-entering the Dating Scene-Help??
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Re-entering the Dating Scene-Help??
| Tue, 10-28-2008 - 10:59pm |
Hi Everyone, I had a lunch date today with a man I met near work. Lunch went well, I enjoyed myself. My question and concern is that he was very nervous and felt intimated by me, he said it was because of how I present myself and how I dress. I dress nice all the time, somewhat on the shy side, it's hard for me to talk to men, especially those I find attractive to because I get nervour and my words don't come out right. Normally when I have gone out on a date if have always been very nervous and for some reason this time I was not at all. It's kind of funny, not in a mean way, that he was the one who was nervous. I have not been on a date where a man was very nervous, I would say this man could not hide it well. It's funny because we laughed about it and teased each other about wearing tennis shoes to run. My question is that he will email me to communicate with me, he finally approached me last Tuesday, gave me his business card telling me to eamil him, which I did and in a nice manner told him I could not correspond on personal business through my work email address, so he called me immediately to set up a time for me to go over to his office for a building tour. The reason I did not want him emailing me at work about getting together is because I don't want my supervisor or management seeing that he or myself is trying to set up a date, to me that's unprofessional. Since then the only contact he has given me is through email and twice a day. It's is interesting how he has not called me on my cell to chat, is this normal, I find it strange. I would like to get to know him but not via computer, I want to get to know him via telephone and of course in person. I could use all your suggestions and ideas on why he has not called me on my phone to talk because I would like to talk to him on the phone. He just email me stating he wanted to get together with me after work to talk. I responded talking to him on other things but I am not going to set up a time to meet him to talk, he can call me on my phone to set this one up. This is my first date in two years from ending my last relationship of 2.5 years.
Anna

I don't mean to sound harsh but you might be missing out on a good guy just because you are so hung up on him calling you.
I personally H A T E to talk on the phone. Unless it's my daughter, who I talk to everyday, I avoid the phone like the plague. I'm 47 and when I make plans with my siblings, my friends, my cousins, 90% of it is now done through emails.
If you like this guy, cut him a break and make plans via email and talk to him in person. I'd rather make a date through email to see a guy in person than to talk to him on the phone but never get any face to face time.
I hope this helps. Let us know how things are going.
Anna
Anna
I'm glad I am not the only one who feels this way. I hate to talk on the phone. At my house, I can't get any privacy, my kids can hear everything I say, so I would rather a guy NOT call me and e-mail instead.
Plus, I am really visual, so I need to see facial expressions and body language when I am talking to someone. I spent an hour on the phone with a guy once (after "meeting" on line) and it seemed OK to me, but I never heard back, so I feel like had I been able to SEE him, I would have gotten a better feel for him.
Anna
Anna
I'm like you too. I like to talk face to face so I can read them from the way they act, not just the words they say.
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