Running from feelings

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Registered: 06-21-2009
Running from feelings
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Sat, 01-08-2011 - 11:58pm
A girl and I just started dating... She 38, me 36.. I have kids, her none, we both have been through marriages. She told me today it's feeling like a relationship and she is getting attached, now wants to have space, says she is not ready. I asked her "Deep down, I feel like before we met we had a unreal connection... Have you developed feelings towards me? Stronger than normal... And be completely and totally cold hearted honest". We met through others and talked before we met face to face. Her answer was "yes". Would she lie to make it easy? What's this running from feelings crap? I thought women wanted strong relationships with people they felt things for?
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Sun, 01-09-2011 - 1:21pm

Did she say why she was not ready to have a relationship?

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Registered: 06-21-2009
Sun, 01-09-2011 - 1:34pm
Yeah, she said she is not ready, and had been thinking about a future with me...??? Why already was my question, especially if she's not ready. She's been apart from her husband for over a year now. I haven't spoken to her since yesterday... So, when she is ready... It's not me? Right? That's already been ruined? It hurts cause I'm so picky and we had not one bad moment together
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 01-11-2011 - 2:46am

It sounds like you are dating a married woman since you mention that she has a husband.