Seems like an a dumb question but...

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Seems like an a dumb question but...
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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 3:39pm

Where do you meet guys? I'm seriously stuck in a rut lately and the bar scene is getting old. Plus, while one-night-stands are great and all, I'd like to meet someone to actually go on dates with. Seems like it's been so long since I've been on a good ol fashioned "dinner and movie" date. Do those still exist? LOL

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 5:12pm

singleandawesome wrote:
<p>Where do you meet guys? I'm seriously stuck in a rut lately and the bar scene is getting old. Plus, while one-night-stands are great and all, I'd like to meet someone to actually go on dates with. Seems like it's been so long since I've been on a good ol fashioned "dinner and movie" date. Do those still exist? LOL</p>

supposedly, they are everywhere, but if there is a common reason why you're both in the same place at the same time, that interest may work to your advantage.

my suggestion is to take up a sport that a woman can enjoy: golf, kayaking, a running club, triathalon training...something along those lines. Spring has sprung today, so look in your area's alternative news weekly for ideas.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 12:11pm

How old are you?  I think the older you are, the more likely a guy is to take you on an actual date, but I have to say that when my DD was a senior in college & met her BF, the 1st date was a dinner/movie and he paid--she was very excited.  If you get in the habit of going to bars & having one night stands with men, you'll just keep getting more of that.  If you want to meet different men, then you have to expand your horizons.  Sports are good, activities clubs, meetup groups.  I don't like to play sports so I took up dancing--the kind where you have to have a partner (swing or ballroom)--there are always more women than men, but at least there are men.  Oh and call me old, which I am, but I think if you start off having a ONS with someone, that guy is not then going to start taking you out on dates--he'll figure, as Steve Harvey puts it, that he already got the "cookie" so why bother making an effort?  If you meet a guy in a bar or wherever, give him your phone no & tell him to call you if he wants to see you again--don't go home with him that night and don't sleep w/ him on the first date either--make him work a little and you'll quickly weed out the guys who just want casual sex.

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Fri, 03-29-2013 - 2:12am

Thanks for the advice! I've only been on these boards for about a week but I'm already hooked! (As evidenced by me coming to post when I couldn't fall asleep tonight!) I probably shouldn't say my exact age but let's just say "upper 20's". Embarassed